(Closed) How do your in-laws celebrate your birthday?

posted 9 years ago in Married Life
Post # 62
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

We don’t live in the same city, so not a whole lot.  DH’s family aren’t card people, whereas my family is.  We both get cards from my family.

We usually get a phonecall from his family on our birthdays.  If we lived in the same city, there would probably be a get together with the relatives where a few birthdays would be celebrated at the same time.

Post # 63
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If it’s like last year, they’ll forget it and, 3 weeks later when it is my MIL’s birthday, ask what we’re doing for her for her birthday. I wouldn’t have cared that they missed my birthday if they hadn’t expected us to drop everything and take Mother-In-Law to dinner and get her presents. It was the 4th birthday I’d been dating my husband for… lol. 

Post # 64
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My birthday is usually not acknowledged.  In fact, last year we were visiting them across the country during my birthday, and on the day of nobody even remembered it.  We have a great relationship *rolls eyes*

I cant take it personally though, because nobody ever remembers DH’s bday, either.

Post # 65
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

WOW…that was kind of rude of him. My in-laws always get me something.

Post # 66
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

What an odd thing for your Father-In-Law to say. 

We don’t live in the same city as IL but I always get a card. 

Post # 67
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Last year there was a small surprise party for me, but that was 99% my fiance. He told them “It’s her birthday and she has no family for thousands of miles, so SHOW UP AND SING.” or something like that! His mother did cook, but she does that whenever the family is over… which is at least once a week. Fiance bought a cake and balloons and decorated. His neice made me a card and a sign. This year I doubt they’ll do anything. Mother-In-Law might remember and hug me and make me food or something, which would be nice.

FI’s father wasn’t there because his parents are divorced. I have the same birthday as him, however, so we took him and his wife out for dinner at a nice little Italian place. That was the second time we did something for him and he’s never reciprocated or even thanked us soooooo I’m going with he won’t remember/care haha.

Then again, Fiance didn’t even call his brother on his birthday because “we don’t have that kind of relationship.” HA! What kind of relationship do you have to have to say happy birthday to someone by call or text? Weird!

Post # 68
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I don’t even think my Future In-Laws know/cares when my birthday is (even though it’s 13 days after my FI) so I get nothing from them – no calls, gifts, etc.  It kind of sucks…

On the other hand, my parents adore my Fiance and both my mom and dad will make sure to call him and send him a gift on his birthday.  We don’t live near our parents so we don’t see either set too often (except now with all the wedding planning) but this year, we were down in SoCal for wedding planning and tried to squeeze in dinner for my mom’s birthday (4 days before my FI) and she wanted to cancel her dinner just so we could have a dinner for my Fiance instead.  We ended up doing a joint birthday dinner.  Needless to say, I’m a bit peeved at my Future In-Laws for their lack of caring, especially when my parents obviously care about my Fiance tons.

Post # 69
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Busy bee

Mother-In-Law doesn’t even remember her own son’s birthday, let alone mine.  I would be SHOCKED if she ever remembered it.  Come to think of it, she’s never even asked when it is…

Post # 70
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My Mother-In-Law usually takes us for dinner, and gives me a gift and a card.  For my husband’s birthday (which is on Christmas eve) we always have everyone over for dinner and my mom will give him a birthday gift.

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