How Doctors Fail Women Who Don’t Want Children

posted 10 months ago in No Kids
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

You can’t just wander into a doctors surgery and demand an endometrial ablation. If you don’t want children then don’t, that’s totally within your control. Your post stings of entitlement and a sense that the doctor is just there to perform surgeries that people request, regardless of risk or suitability, or exploring alternative avenues. 

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

happyjuju :  You realize that contraception can fail, right? If someone knows they for sure never want kids, they should be able to take whatever mesures they want. 

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

happyjuju :  How is it entitled to want the ability to have a surgery on your own body that will improve your quality of life? That’s the point of medicine.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

happyjuju :  why can men walk in and just demand a vasectomy and have it performed then? 

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

  happyjuju :  Did you read the article? The author describes a doctor refusing to do an an endometrial ablation, not because of risk or suitability, but because the doctor thought the author would one day change her mind.  This is the true sting of entitlement: thinking you know someone else’s life and circumstances better than they do, to the extreme of taking their medical options away. 

By The Way I personally don’t see anything wrong with the author thinking she’s entitled to make her own medical decisions. That is not a sense of entitlement; that’s a basic freakin human right.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

Do the risks of sterilization outweighs the risks of IUDs and other long-term birth controls? 

I agree that women should be able to receive sterilization whenever they so choose but I’m trying to see the other side. 

And if one doctor says no, there has to be one that will perform the surgery. People get risky surgeries every day — think of the doctors that perform hundreds of plastic surgeries on patients. 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper

I never understood why women have to be either 27? (in my state) or have three children before they can even be considered for a tubal if it’s not a required procedure (such as a tube ruptured).  If a woman wants to be sterilized she shouldget that choice!  

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Also, OP, I totally agree that the amount of hoops a woman has to jump through are insane. My best friend took years to find a Dr willing to perform her surgery because she would “change her mind”. It’s 2018 and people still can’t understand not every woman wants to have kids?!

We all know no man has to jump through a single damn hoop for a vesectomy.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

happyjuju :  If the doctors were citing medical reasons why the procedure shouldn’t be preformed then that’s one thing. But that isn’t the case. They’re telling women that they don’t think they should be sterilized while sterilizing men. So clearly they don’t have any opposition to sterilization. This woman was denied medical care because doctors thought she should have kids. 

Hell, if I didn’t want kids I’d be like “cut this shit out of me” and I’m normal. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

bewitched :  I am certain that the risks of  vasectomies outweigh the risks of condoms. 

No, there doesn’t. I know personally two women who could not find a doctor to do it due to the possibility of changing their mind. There was another who DIED from cervical cancer after doctors refused to do a hysterectomy because “there are other ways to treat cancer and you might change your mind about kids.” Well, the dead don’t have kids. 🤷‍♀️ 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

The fact that we have men, with no medical degrees, trying to legislate birth control and women’s bodies says all you need to know about women not being valued.

It’s infuriating.

When they were deciding if women’s healthcare should be mandated insurance coverage.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

The really strange thing to me is how strongly opposed people are to women being childree. It’s honestly very bizarre that people care so much. Why should a doctor give a crap on whether I would change my mind or not about having children? It’s my life. There is some assumption out there that every woman’s life goal is to reproduce and it’s seen as weird, selfish, wrong if you don’t feel that way. Or that you’ll just change your mind later. It’s to the point that even complete strangers try to talk you out of being childree.

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

But they’ll do a breast augmentation with no second thoughts, no long lectures on risk, and no cautions about “what if you change your mind.”  SMH.  Silicone implants of any kind are riskier than getting your tubes tied.   

 

 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

impatient1 :  I am so sorry to hear that. What horrible doctors. May I ask where you’re based? In the US, I’ve found that big city doctors are more progressive. My friend had her tubes tied at 25 in LA. She comes from an extremely fertile family and after one hard pregnancy she said no more. 

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