Post # 1
Hello bees! I’m (hopefully) finding out my baby’s sex tomorrow, and people have been constantly asking me what the sex is and what the names will be. So far I have been telling people that we aren’t set on names, but we pretty much are set on a boy name, just not girl ones. I don’t really want to be telling everyone what my baby’s name will be until he/she is born, though. How do I convey that without being rude? I don’t want to flat-out say “I don’t want to tell you” because it isn’t personal, I just would like the name to be a surprise except to close friends and family. Should I just say we aren’t sure yet? I don’t really feel like explaining our name choices or hearing possible negative opinions. :/
Post # 3
You could just say, “We’ll see.” “I have a few in mind.” Or smile and say, “Super secret :)”
Post # 4
I know exactly how you feel.
I just tell people we’re not completely sure – which is true because we’re still struggling with a middle name. Most of the time, they drop it after that but if they press the issue, I tell them that I don’t really want to tell people what we’re considering in case we end up changing our minds! 🙂
Post # 5
“I don’t know…we’ll figure it out when he/she is born!” “We’re not telling anyone so it will be a surprise.”
Post # 6
@dreamocracy: Don’t lie! Just say “We’re having a ____!! We aren’t sharing names until he/she comes but we’re so excited!” I think it’s smart to wait…people won’t share their feelings once the baby is named but will have NOOOOO problem sharing and reacting when you tell them before baby comes….sure to make you feel like crap if it’s a little bit different!
However, I would either just not tell anyone or go ahead and tell everyone. I think you do run the risk of hurting feelings if it gets out.
Post # 7
I’m only 11 weeks, but my plan is just to say that we can’t completely decide until we see the baby.
Post # 8
@dreamocracy: I would just say, “We aren’t quite decided yet so we don’t want to say anything” You shouldn’t feel bad for not wanting to share. This is your baby, and you can decide to tell or not tell the name of your child.
Post # 9
A coworker announced what she was having for both children… But said “we aren’t telling anyone the name until she (and then he) is born”. Everyone respected that.
Post # 10
We just said we narrowed down the names but won’t know til he got here. We did have 2 names and the name we were leaning towards is the name he is.
Post # 11
Pick the 2 stupidest names you can find and when people ask tell them those names and be super excited about it!
For a boy – Xayven Ice
For a girl – Tondelaya Sapphire
They will get the hint or you’ll have fun discussing your choices till the end of your pregnancy!
Oh yeah congratulations!
Post # 12
We’ve been keeping our name a secret and so far it’s worked out. We call the baby “Pickles” (just another take on “Peanut” or something like that), so everyone calls it Pickles (now we’re just praying that nickname doesn’t stick once she’s born!). Our parents know the name we’ve picked out, but that’s it; it’s actually kinda funny listening to our friends and family try to guess what name we’ve picked for her. Luckily, everyone’s respected our decision to keep it a secret.
Post # 13
My SIL simply said that they were not revealing the name until after the birth. Why not just tell the truth?
Post # 14
@dreamocracy: Don’t worry about hurting people’s feelings! Its YOUR baby!
My photographer’s got pregnant half way through my engagement and so I have freshly delt with this. I asked what they were going to name their girl baby and they simply said “Oh we’re keeping it a surprise! We haven’t even told our parents! Everyone is so excited to find out but we’re not telling until she arrives!” and I could not be more happy for her!
I also think I had a friend do this as well but they let people know it was a boy and that his name was going to start with an “E” so they referred to him as “Baby E” and it wasn’t until he was born that they told people. No one had a problem and now people still call him Baby E lol
Don’t be afraid to keep it to yourself! There are very few genuine surprises in this life so I would totally keep onto it as long as possible because your baby (and their name!) is yours!!!
Post # 15
I just smile and say, “I’ll be glad to tell you after he’s born.” DH’s take is to tell them an absolutely ridiculous name (his personal favorite is Autonomous Zerjacob), though that almost backfired when his co-workers thought he was serious and almost put it on the baby shower cake…
Post # 16
just say to people, we’re still not sure, there are so many great names to go by… however this always starts the “what about this name… converstaion”, or the “well dont name it this name …. conversation”.
So just saying oh i think we’ll know it when we see the baby works wel cause people are less inclinded to give some names..
Or i suppose you could try to change the subject like “no we havent really been discussing names, we are more focussed on the nursery.. do you know how many different colours of grey/white/pink/blue there are?” and go from there..