Post # 1
This may sound silly, but I have two appointments at bridal shops over the next week. I used to have an eating disorder, so am kinda dreading the whole thing. I worry I’ll hate myself in every dress, and the idea of being measured or having to wear a dress two sizes bigger than normal just horrifies me.
So I am wondering how exactly it works. Do you just go to a few shops and try on dresses you see, or do they bring dresses to you? Then what happens? Also, how long does it take to find a dress? If you find a dress you like, will they keep it on hold or something while you go look at other dresses?
Post # 3
@Bainise2013: Those are all great questions! I was also freaked out about the dress shopping experience. I was terrified that I would hate all of the dresses. Good news– there is a dress out there for everyone.
Shops are all different, so it’s a good idea to call up the shop you’re visiting and ask them their process. Generally, you’ll arrive and they’ll ask you about your wedding and if you have any styles in mind. Don’t worry if you don’t- that’s what this process is for. From there, the consultant will pull some dresses for you, tell you to look around at what you like, or both.
As you try on dresses, look at the dress, not yourself. What I mean is that you shod focus on the dress and how it makes you look. If you think you look bad, it just means the dress is not the right cut for you. Be very objective and don’t make it personal. It’s just fabric and beads.
Unless you are buying a sample, you don’t need to worry about “saving” your dress. Each dress is ordered to your size and specifications so there are an unlimited number. Some older dresses may not be made anymore, but then they shouldn’t be included in the dresses you try on.
What to bring:
Bring a strapless bra and wear nude underwear so they don’t show through. I also wore spanx, but that’s up to you if that would make you feel more comfortable. I also recommend wearing make-up and doing your hair. You don’t have to go full-out, just look nice.
Bring good people! Bring people who are supportive and share yiour style, and who understand your history with eating disorders. They will be there to encourage you, give you opinions, take pictures, and take notes.
Finally, if you start to feel miserable and it’s not fun, it’s okay to leave. The first visit for me was overwhelming but the second was amazing.