(Closed) How does he 'no longer see a future' after 7 years in a happy relationship?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 76
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2765 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

If you can, definitely definitely definitely don’t ask him for money. Borrow from a friend, your parents, the bank, sell your stuff but DONT go to him for money. He will know it’s just an attempt to reestablish contact and to have “something” of his.

 

Don’t do it Bee.

Post # 77
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566 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Well he lived with you already, without being married, so he knows what being married to you would be like . He probably felt after 5 years under the same roof there were no surprises or mystery left.  

I’m sure he loves you and you guys were great together.  But maybe he just wants to start fresh and have that new, exciting feeling again.  Maybe, at least with this guy, it wasnt the greatest idea to live together all these years.  He’s been there, done that, had all the benefits of marriage with you and now he’s lost interest.

Maybe it’s a big blessing that his character is revealed before a wedding rather than after.

Post # 79
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9 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2016

footprints:  First of all, I’m sorry this has happened to you. Sadly, he probably wasn’t happy for a long time and just couldn’t take it anymore. He broke it off because the relationship wasn’t healthy or happy for him. For his own reasons, he fell out of love, and as painful as that is, you are better off in the long run. No one should spend the rest of their life living in an illusion of happiness. Better to find someone who is ready to love you as you should be loved. Best of luck to you, and I hope you have support from your loved ones.

Post # 80
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81 posts
Worker bee

footprints:  I feel for you and i am currebtly living this. Except my fiancé of six years broke up with me five weeks ago. We own a house together that we spent a year and a half custom building and I paid a lot of money towards (still am). I moved out and he is living in the house with our car in denial being selfish. Anyhow, I will sadly be tie to him for months while we try and sell the house we built for our life together. Right. I was also fully blindsided  mine is distraught and seeking therapy  isn’t sure he made the right choice.

Anyhow, i support the no contact method (if you are lucky enough to be able to). And i also believe things do happen for a reason. You want someone who will fight for you, not walk away. Hold your head high. We will make it through this better. I am 31 for the record and he is 40. Literally lost it at 40. 

Post # 82
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2733 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

footprints:  Ouch…. I was really hoping that wasn’t the case. Does knowing this make it easier (good riddance to a douche, at least now you have your answers) or harder (now questioning everything, feeling betrayed)?

Post # 83
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333 posts
Helper bee

🙁 well look on the bright side, if you got married to him, you will be going through a divorce right now and if you guys had a child, you still have to see him and maybe your child’s step mom would have been the ” whore” and putting your child to sleep. 

consider it as a gift, that he broke it off. 

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