(Closed) How does one say…Please lose weight before my wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

How does one say…Please lose weight before my wedding?

 

 

You don’t. 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

you seriously expect people to “get in shape” just for your wedding? You’re appreciative of everyone’s “body changes”? It’s your wedding, not theirs and sorry to break this to you but your wedidng isn’t some life turning event for everyone. If they want to be healthy it will be becasue for themselves not for your wedding!

Post # 6
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Helper bee

you don’t…

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

[Post moderated for name calling]  Because if you are not, um yeah I am not going to say what I am really thinking for fear of being banned.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

You don’t. She is your best friend. You should never expect her to change for you. If she is happy with her body, then as her friend you should support her and not try to make her change. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

step 1: tell friend to lose weight for your wedding

step 2: find a new friend

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I agree with the pp, you don’t! It’s unreasonable of you to even mention your bridesmaids figures. You can opt to chose a colour and a fabric and allow each Bridesmaid or Best Man to choose the dress that best flatters their body,whatever size they may be. 

Your friend may be comfortable in her relationship, and let herself go. It may not be a stressor but a comfort level, and as her set friend that is not for you to mention. Weightloss should be at the discretion of the person not her friends. If her weight does not affect her health, then it’s  no ones concern but hers.

When I get engaged I have a large variety of different sized woman who i would be honoured to stand up with me on my special day, regardless of the dress size they wear.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@rosworms:  Seriously. How to end a friendship in 5 seconds or less.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

LOL

Oh man. Gotta agree with PPs.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

If she was your friend this post would be ‘I’m concerned that my friend is becoming dangerous to her own well being and affecting her own health by her new eating habits. How do I help her for her own sake?’ 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@rosworms:  This, +1

I feel bad for your friend, I can’t imagine how bad it would feel to find out your best friend thinks you are too fat to be in her wedding.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

one doesn’t

If you’re really serious I’d say your primary option is saying, “Hey, want to go to the gym with me?” or “Let’s go for a bike ride” or “There’s this beautiful hike Fiance and I have been wanting to go on”. Get my drift?

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