Post # 1
Ok please dont think im mean for this post because I have a really good reason…I swear!!
The person I am talking about is my best friend.
So just in the past year since I have told her that we are getting married she has plumped up (and this is me putting it lightly) I mean she went from a size 5 to a size 16…I dont even understand. I slyly mentioned that everyone is doing a really good job getting in shape and I have been very appreciative of everyones body changes for the wedding next year. This is what she said…”Im on the eat whatever you want and dont exercise diet and im keeping it that way forever.”
I dont even know what to say..lol. She knows what kind of dresses I am thinking about and if she gains anymore weight its not gonna be pretty.
Ive tried to edge around the weight because she is my best friend so I figured maybe something was going on in her life that she just wasnt telling me about some kind of stressor. I know what its like to be stressed out…bring on the donuts!
But there is nothing, she is in a happy relationship (in which me and her bf just picked out her engagement ring and she doesnt even know it), she’s excited about her new job, etc. I dunno…what do I do?
Post # 3
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Post # 4
How does one say…Please lose weight before my wedding?
Post # 5
you seriously expect people to “get in shape” just for your wedding? You’re appreciative of everyone’s “body changes”? It’s your wedding, not theirs and sorry to break this to you but your wedidng isn’t some life turning event for everyone. If they want to be healthy it will be becasue for themselves not for your wedding!
Post # 7
[Post moderated for name calling] Because if you are not, um yeah I am not going to say what I am really thinking for fear of being banned.
Post # 8
You don’t. She is your best friend. You should never expect her to change for you. If she is happy with her body, then as her friend you should support her and not try to make her change.
Post # 9
step 1: tell friend to lose weight for your wedding
step 2: find a new friend
Post # 10
I agree with the pp, you don’t! It’s unreasonable of you to even mention your bridesmaids figures. You can opt to chose a colour and a fabric and allow each Bridesmaid or Best Man to choose the dress that best flatters their body,whatever size they may be.
Your friend may be comfortable in her relationship, and let herself go. It may not be a stressor but a comfort level, and as her set friend that is not for you to mention. Weightloss should be at the discretion of the person not her friends. If her weight does not affect her health, then it’s no ones concern but hers.
When I get engaged I have a large variety of different sized woman who i would be honoured to stand up with me on my special day, regardless of the dress size they wear.
Post # 11
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Post # 12
@rosworms: Seriously. How to end a friendship in 5 seconds or less.
Post # 13
Oh man. Gotta agree with PPs.
Post # 14
If she was your friend this post would be ‘I’m concerned that my friend is becoming dangerous to her own well being and affecting her own health by her new eating habits. How do I help her for her own sake?’
Post # 15
@rosworms: This, +1
I feel bad for your friend, I can’t imagine how bad it would feel to find out your best friend thinks you are too fat to be in her wedding.
Post # 16
If you’re really serious I’d say your primary option is saying, “Hey, want to go to the gym with me?” or “Let’s go for a bike ride” or “There’s this beautiful hike Fiance and I have been wanting to go on”. Get my drift?