Post # 1
My fiance and I keep going round and round about this. At first, I felt like he was just being caddy to a particular bridesmaid he does not care for and wanted to make her walk with a groomsmen who is also her ex. Now, I just don’t think that either one of us really knows how this is supposed to go. I cannot believe I never really paid much attention at a wedding of how the bridal party walked in and out of the ceremony – I’m a horrible guest! LOL We do have an uneven party and he keeps making it seem like we need to pair up the bm’s and gm. I keep telling him they don’t have to be and the gm can be up at the front with him and the bm’s can all come before me. Then, he argues that they have to be paired up to walk out. Honestly, I can see how the walking in can work without being paired up, but I have to admit it makes sense they walk out paired up.
So hive, how does a typical processional/recessional go?
Post # 3
Check out ej’s response here. I love it. Anyway, nowadays, everybody does whatever suits her/him these days. With uneven bridal party, they can either process out alone or just accompany with another bridal party member of the same sex.
Post # 4
Most weddings I’ve been to or been in have had the groomsmen standing up at the altar with the groom and then the girls walk in alone. For the recessional, they usually walk out in pairs but in the cases of uneven parties I have seen one guy with 2 girls or a girl with two guys. If your bridesmaid does not feel comfortable walking with her ex then you should definitely avoid pairing her up with him!!
Post # 5
the last few that i’ve been to the groomsmen walk out first and stand at the altar with the groom, and the bridesmaids go down the isle alone before the bride. then when they’re leaving they walk with the guys. but i don’t think it’s written in stone, i’m sure they can do whatever you want. also, if they are walking together, you pick who goes with who, so there’s no need to place your friend with her ex.
Post # 6
I put together a blog post on WeddingbeePRO that may be helpful, too..
Post # 7
Thank you, your comments and the blog post have been very helpful!
Post # 8
I think we’re going to have the groom standing up at the front already, while the guests finish up getting seated. For the processional, the groomsmen and bridesmaids will walk in together in pairs or 3s, then the flower girls and ring bearer (perhaps all holding hands with each other, since they are pretty young), and then me!!
We also have a slightly uneven wedding party, so 1 groomsman will walk in with 2 bridesmaids on his arm. (That would be the “pimp daddy” groomsman!)
Post # 9
It’s traditional for the groom and his party to walk in right before the ceremony starts (usually from the side room up in the front), and the bridesmaids to walk out alone, followed by the flower girl(s), then the bride with her father. I have never seen a recessional without the bmaids/groomsmen paired up.
But honestly, as long as your church or venue is okay with it, I think anything goes. A lot of BM’s don’t like walking down the aisle alone and make strong pleas to be paired up. I personally like the look of what I described above best..