Post # 1
I’m pretty much a wedding newb, so I don’t know how this goes.
Do people give you stuff from your registry at your shower and then money at the wedding? Or something small and not on your registry for the shower and then stuff from the registry for the wedding? I have no idea what to expect. And guests that can’t make the shower, do they send something? What about those who can’t make the wedding, do they send money/gifts anytime?
I have no idea what to expect…what has your experience been?
Post # 3
Totally depends on your area, sorry!
Common things are: gifts at shower and cash at wedding.
gifts at shower, gifts and cash at wedding.
some will decline and send gifts, some will decline and not send gifts
Few guests who can’t make the shower will still send something. Usually it’s grandmas/relatives who still send something if they can’t make it, or really close friends.
It’s pretty much a guarantee that you will get things that you didn’t register for, here’s hoping that you like the things!
Post # 4
It varies depending on your area.
Where I live, you get gifts at the shower, sent to you before the wedding, or at the wedding if you weren’t invited to the shower, but not necessarily all three. Gifts can be things off the registry or money. Some people do gifts and money but others just do one or the other.
Anyway, we will be happy if our guest just make it to our wedding. We don’t expect anything of them other than to have a great time and enjoy the day with us.
Post # 5
Cool, thanks for letting me know! Where I’m from in upstate NY its gifts only if you can make the shower and cash at the wedding. FH says people bring gifts to the wedding, but I’d never seen that…
I don’t care too much about the gifts either, I just want to know what to expect!
Post # 6
Typically, around here, it’s gifts (from the registry) at the shower and then gifts or cash at the wedding. Usually, the shower gift is something more fun (e.g. vase, picture frame) and the wedding gift is pricier and more utilitarian (e.g. set of pots/pans, knife set).
Most gifts are sent to the address on file and the cash/gift cards are gifted in person at the wedding. That said, we ended up with a few gifts brought directly to the wedding. Two of the three were off-registry items (which makes sense because they didn’t have our mailing address). Our DOC suggested a small gift table so I’m guessing it’s a “just in case” thing rather than the normal. Certainly, the table would not have accomodate all of the boxed gifts received.