- Treasure43
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
Edited, since I decided to try and talk to her in person 🙂
Thanks guys!
Edited, since I decided to try and talk to her in person 🙂
Thanks guys!
I think everything you say is great. BUT I would still push to say it in person. The problem with letters is that there is no way to convey tone, and if your sister-in-law thinks that you hate her, she might read a really negative tone in your letter. I know that you put the smiley faces in there to convey that you are being friendly, but someone who is trying to read it negatively will interpret them as passive-aggressive. Sometimes with written letters, you can’t win.
With an in-person conversation, you could control the tone. I would advise it.
I worry if I call her, she’ll want to talk on the phone and I SUCK at phone convos.
ETA: I’m also worried in person things might get heated.
The other problem with sending a letter is that it is out of your control if she reacts badly. Whereas if she reacts badly in person, at least you have a chance to explain yourself.
If she asks why, just tell her you want to clear the air and get to know her better, away from the rest of the family. Be cheery,and she should realize that you don’t mean anything negative by wanting to meet with her
I agree that saying these things in person would be much more effective
The topic ‘How does this letter to SIL sound?’ is closed to new replies.