(Closed) How does THIS sound for invites not allowing children…

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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144 posts
Blushing bee

I think that sounds really good, although I have done no formal research on this topic therefore I might not be qualified to answer but it wouldn’t bother me if I received it except I don’t have any kids, so again, I might not be qualified to answer…

Post # 4
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210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

hmmm… seems a little over the top for an invite. I would just put the individuals you are inviting on the envelope, include the address wedding website somewhere on the invite and explain in more detail there. Then, if people still write their children into the RSVP card, give them a call and explain, nicely, your concerns. It’s always easier to hear in person than to read in harsh print.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Yea, something about that kind of puts me off.  If I was you, I would probably include a line on the invites that say we have ___ (NUMBER) seats reserved for you (or something along those lines) and maybe write the invitees names onto the RSVP.  That way, it doesn’t give the appeared flexibility that most RSVP seem to allow.  And, I would take it on a case by case basis if they write in their kids names.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

If people get what you’re doing with that, they might think it seems a little too abrasive, and if they don’t, they might just think you’re to write in how many adults will be attending on that line and then fill in how many children they’re inviting on their own!

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper

That is definitely offputting…just too much emphasis on the whole adult thing.  I would just write the actual people’s name who are invited on the invite.  (Actually, I DID do that.)

Post # 8
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655 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I also find it off-putting. There are lots of posts on the Bee boards about identifying that it is an adult only reception simply on the invite, and how to indicate number of guests. The tone of the reply card above seems really limiting rather than celebratory. I grabbed this from @EAQ219:

We hope you can join our celebration!

Please reply by April 30

Name(s) ___________________

__ seats have been reserved for you (we’ll write in the number based on how many we’re inviting)

__ Graciously accepts

__ Regretfully declines

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think if you just list adult names on invites, people will assume only those adults are welcome.  Hmm… You could consider making response cards with the names of each person printed delicately on the top… 

Mr. James Bond

_____Steak with Scallops

_____Altantic Salmon

Just an idea.  I think I would do someting like that and then use word of mouth…

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think it is too much, but I like it 🙂

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

And one thing that I’ve learned from these boards – no matter what you put on those invites, there will always be a small percentage of people that just don’t get it. So, I’m preparing myself for those “sorry, your little darlings aren’t invited – adults only!” conversations.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Totally @goldilocks!  I used the “We have saved ____ seats in your honor”, wrote ONLY the adult names on the invitations…. and yet STILL we get questions about kids.  Oh, and we also linked them to our wedding website which clearly states “Adult reception”…

le sigh…

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