(Closed) how does this sound: wording for promptness note

posted 8 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I don’t know that it’s necessary.  People will know they’re supposed to arrive on time, and asking them to do so won’t make a big difference.  If your heart is set on including something, I would not include that you are not going to be entering until half an hour after you’re asking them to arrive, and I would not use all caps.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Hmm, if I were to get that in an invite I would be a bit taken aback I think. More so by your forthright manner in which you’re saying it. Have you thought about just putting in a note that says, “We kindly ask that you check travel conditions on the day and allow for an extra 20 minutes if the conditions are busy. We can’t wait to see you on the day”. Then you can reiterate it on your wedding website if you want.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would not breakdown the timeframes.  Some people might think that “oh, we have until 2pm”.  I would simply state something like, “Seating will begin at 1:30 PM.”  That way, people will aim for arriving at 1:30 – giving them a 15 minute buffer for the traffic, parking, etc… prior to start time. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

1.  I don’t like the part where you say starting at 1:45.  Then bride processes at 2pm.  Is your processional 15 minutes long?  I’m guessing you are saying it starts at 1:45 so that everyone will have arrived.  Or perhaps you have some fun music starting at 1:45pm.  But then you aren’t to actually start until 2pm.  I would just be upfront with the actual ceremony time.  If you want to add that seating starts at 1:30pm, that’s fine.  But I don’t think you want to sound misleading at all about the ceremony starting at 1:45pm.  Otherwise prompt ppl are being punished by sitting around for a half hour.

2.  Please do not say, “please arrive promptly”.  If I saw that on an invitation, I would feel like the bride was having a bridezilla moment.  However, I do feel you have a valid concern about traffic (that is if ppl are from OOT).  For those OOTers, maybe you could just give them some traffic tips on the insert you’re preparing. 

3.  Perhaps there is a friend or family member who can be in charge of helping with directions the day of, if there is a strange traffic issue? 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think the whole thing is unnecessary and it’s going to cause some talk and get some eyes rolling.  I also agree with whoever said that you shouldn’t break down the times, especially if you want them to arrive half an hour before it begins.  I’d stick with the “Seating begins at 1:30” and maybe a note of warning on traffic conditions (esp if you have a lot of people from out of town) on the directions card if you’re having one. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee

That sounds extremely controlling to me. I don’t think you need that note at all. An invitation with a time on it will be enough.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Yea, I agree with @jslsbride62610 – I would definitely roll my eyes at that.  If you want to include anything, I would maybe note on your website that the venue is by the botantical gardens and zoo and to be aware that there might be traffic, but nothing else.  Your invite has the time of the reception and you should leave it be at that.  Otherwise, you seem controlling. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Or, just make the time on the invite slightly before the time you actually are starting.  Our invite time is 15 mins earlier than we’ll probably start.  But if there are a lot of people there on time, we’ll just start anyway so they don’t have to sit outside too long.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

I don’t think you write one time or the other. You can write 2pm and people will know to arrive before then in order to see the processional. I’m sure everyone you are inviting are adults that know to allow for travel time/arrive to a wedding on time 🙂

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

It’s a great idea to mention things like the traffic in the area and any other considerations people may not be aware of, but I wouldn’t comment on promptness specifically (especially not in all caps).

If you are very concerned about guests not arriving before the start time, note a “gathering” time that is 30 minutes prior. People who know to show up early will know what you mean, and those who don’t know will aim to arrive at the gathering time.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

A few suggestions:

1. Have the invitation say the ceremony is starting at 1:30, without any mention of seating or bridal procession.

2. Instead of the letter, insert a little map of the campus (to aid your guests in finding the chapel).  On the map, you can write “Please calculate NY traffic into your travel time.”

3. Don’t use all-capitals anywhere on the ivitation or the note, because they are usually taken as the equivalent of yelling.

That should help get your guests there on time without hurting anyone’s feelings!

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