How does your family do Christmas Gift Giving?

posted 2 years ago in Holidays
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club

TxIslandGirl :  I have 3 sisters, so as we’ve gotten older and 3 of us married and one with a kid, we decided to do a secret santa amongst us and our SO’s to save money. So between the 8 of us we set a budget of $75 and get one person and that’s it, but can’t be your SO. So we each get one good gift instead of a bunch of OK gifts. It works out well!

On my mom’s side, the adults (21 and over) do a grab bag of $50.

On my DH’s side there are a ton of kids, so we do a white elephant amongst the adults which is usually $25 and we each are assigned one kid to buy for of $50. If any more kids are born that might throw it askew though, so not sure how that will proceed.

These little things save us tons of money and stress! I definitely recommend it!

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

TxIslandGirl :  We get gifts for our parents, but we don’t do gifts for my brother or my husbands siblings and it’s amazing! We can enjoy being together and not have to stress about getting something sometimes for the sake of getting it. We do gifts for the kids though.

No gifts for my husbands extended family, usually I’ll make some cookies for his one aunt that we see often. My extended family is terrible though, we used to do secret Santa, but people complained and that stopped. Now it’s ‘buy who you want to buy for’, so people end up feeling obligated to get something for everyone. I buy for my family who gets us stuff, which ends up being 5 aunts and 3 cousins. Too much!

Post # 4
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Busy bee

We do traditional gift giving. I can totally see why some families would opt for other options, but this works for us.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Everyone in my family gets a stack of gifts anywhere from 10 – 20 and 1 big gift. But, my dad loves Christmas, we have a small family and it’s always been this way. When I was younger we used to have insane Christmases (big gifts were things like go-carts back then) and i’d get anywhere from 20 – 30 smaller gifts. We also aren’t allowed to do gift cards because they “take no effort”. My dad is kiiiiind of Clark Griswald.

I imagine next year once the baby is here things will go back to insane. Haha

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

At Thansgiving we choose the name of an adult out of a hat and that’s the person we buy for. There’s a $50 limit and the gift giver can ask for 3 gift ideas from the receiver. Some keep it a secret and just buy and some ask for ideas and you know in advance who your gift giver is. Everyone buys for the kids so they have way more presents than the adults do. Between my SO and I, we usually get each other a couple small things, but we are fortunate enough to have more than we could ever ask for all year long so we don’t put oo much emphasis on gifts for each other and just focus on the kids. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

slomotion :  Oh gosh.. the baby, with grandparents and aunts and uncles – oi, I hadn’t thought that far ahead. 

 

We always attempt to say something like “secret Santa this year,” but then people get into the Christmas spirit and start shopping and every year, without fail, our secret Santa plan goes to shit. We just buy what we think people would like but usually nothing too big. 

I spoil Darling Husband though, he gets mad every year. I can’t help it – he’s so much fun to buy presents for! He’s just one of those people you always want to buy something for. Between him and my sister… ugh!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

My stepdad’s family is on the larger side (5 siblings plus their spouses, then 19 kids ranging from 33 to 4 years old). The kids under 18 get divided up so their aunts and uncles buy for a few designated kids (usually choose names out of a hat). Adults are welcome to participate in an optional Yankee Swap at the Christmas Eve party. 

DH’s family is smaller, no grandparents and they alternate between my Mother-In-Law and FIL’s family each year so they don’t really buy for extended family anymore. We decided with my BIL and future SIL a couple years ago to skip the gifts and just do a night out together or some type of “event” rather than a physical gift and it always seems to work out great! My sisters are much younger though so we still do exchange a few small gifts with each other 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Both Darling Husband and I come from large families – I am the eldest of 5 and he is the youngest of 4. My parents are also divorced, so we have 3 families that we have to do gifts with each year.

With my dad, I still have young siblings (aged 6, 9 and 14) so we gift them. We also gift my dad and my step mum, and they gift us. With my mum, we do a KK. It has my other sister (in her 20s), her boyfriend, an aunt and uncle, a great aunt, my mum, Darling Husband and I in it. We pull names out of a hat at my sister’s birthday in October and have a $100 limit. My sister and I usually get my mum something small as well, and she gets us something small.

As for extended family, my dad’s side don’t really do gifts. We always get my grandparents something though and they gift the grandkids (I think we got movie vouchers last year) but that’s it.

With my in laws, we do a KK. It’s Darling Husband, me, my 3 SILs, their DH/FI/BFs, my Mother-In-Law, a grandfather and a great aunt. We also draw names out of a hat, usually sometime in November, and have a $150 limit. All of the children/partners buy my Mother-In-Law something small and she buys her children something small as well. One of my SILs has 2 kids and another is overdue with her first; we always buy gifts for the kids.

As for extended family, my FIL’s side do a KK with a $50 limit. The names are rotated each year though (so who Darling Husband gets this year, I will get next year) – there’s close to 50 people in it, so trying to get everyone to pull a name out of a hat gets way too complicated lol.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

MsPlucky :  Honestly, I’m like 98% sure he’s going to go crazy with baby stuff this year too. 😂 He was already clothes shopping and we don’t even know a gender yet.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

My siblings and SO’s (9 of us total) have been doing secret santa since 2012. Sounds like we are trendsetters! We used to just have my mom assign names but we literally just started using a site called Elfster this year. We’ll see how that goes but it seems pretty good so far (and you can exclude people from getting their SO). Everybody buys gifts for the parents and the kids, but only one sibling has kids yet. Darling Husband doesn’t have any siblings so that makes that side easy!

Post # 13
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Busy bee

Yep! We do normal gifts for all the kids, and secret Santa for all of the adults with a $25 limit. None of us really want gifts for ourselves, so we love this tradition!!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

For both of our families adults draw a name out of a hat at thanksgiving (girls get a hat and guys get a hat). The kids in my family get loads of Christmas gifts so we don’t all buy for them but my mom and dad does. The exchange is just so everyone has at least one gift to open while all the kids are going crazy. FIs family includes the kids in the drawing but they draw for each other not for the adults. 

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