Post # 16
My immediate family (mom, dad, brother) give each other gifts. We also do one $25 secret santa. We’re been using the website http://www.drawnames.com and I love how they assign matches (you can also do exclusions, like couples), you can put a wishlist, and you can anonymously ask people questions about things they want (size, color, etc)
Post # 17
We just buy gifts for our parents and the kids. My sister and I exchange birthday gifts though.
Post # 18
TxIslandGirl : I have a VERY small family (I only buy for my parents, brother, and cousin; my parents buy for each other, me and my brother, and my cousin), so we all buy gifts for each other.
If we had a large family, or lots of children in the family, we would probably still buy for each other/immediate family, but then either do Secret Santa or a no gift policy for the adults.
TBH though because we have such a small family we probably spend a bit more than average; I know I spend more than a lot of my friends who have much more people to buy for, maybe compensating because I know we won’t have as many gifts?
Post # 19
We buy gifts for our parents, siblings, grandparents and also a few of our best friends.
We also host a friend Christmas dinner and do a secret santa there.
Post # 20
TxIslandGirl : Everyone buys for the kids (including college/university age) and then the adults draw names and we buy a Kris Kringle gift for the person we draw.
Post # 21
TxIslandGirl : We do secret santa for everyone over 18. We all still get gifts for grandparents regardless. Everyone under 18 gets gifts from everyone. We use Elfster to do the gift draw, it makes sure that I dont get my husband, SIL doesnt get Brother-In-Law, etc
Post # 22
I’m an only child so I was spoiled rotton growing up. I would get 10 or 20 big gifts and 30+ small gifts. One year I got so exhusted opening gifts that we had to continue on to boxing day. My mom would go wayyyyy too cra-cra.
Now with my extended family and we have all grown up, we do the white elephant gift exhange and it is the best. Everyone spends $25 each and everyone gets a gift and feels included. Easy, fun and mostly it saves us the hassle of stress and money.
Even with my Fiance and his family we say no gifts and just have a nice dinner out and enjoy each others company. I’m sure once we start having kids though I’ll become my mom and go over board! I’ve warned my Fiance and he’s prepared haha.
Post # 23
MissCtoMrsR : That’ the website we use as well! Super convenient!
Post # 24
- Wedding: St. petersburg, FL
My sister, her SO, and me and my SO, and all of the young adults (21 – 30) in the family do not exchange gifts anymore between us.
I do give my aunts, uncles and grandparents gifts. I usually try to stay around $25-$30 for them. I spend about $50 – $100 on my parents and my SO’s parents, but like PP’s, I try to get them experiences and not regular gifts.
I do get all the kids (cousins, nephew) in my family gifts, but sometimes I group them together if I get them a big gift – like my 3 cousins on my mom’s side, I got them a lacrosse goal this year so that’s their collective gift.
I think I more enjoy just getting together for a meal and spending time with them over the holidays rather than giving/receiving gifts, and it’s interesting that me and my young adult family members no longer exchange gifts but my older family members still want that tradition. #millenials 😀
Post # 25
Thanks Ladies! Y’all are making me think I am not a horrible person for thinking there is a better way to do christmas than purchase 12 adults small gifts, rather than a few great gifts lol
I will talk to my In laws at thanksgiving and see if they agree!