Post # 1
When I met SO, I wore really loose clothing, and none of it was in style. I finally started wearing some tight/short dresses and he loved it. After we had been dating for one year, he went crazy drooling over me when I wore the tightest, shortest, most cleavage-baring stuff I had. My dresses for going out barely even skimmed my butt, and I would wear the Victoria’s Secret Miraculous bra that added 2 cup sizes, so even women stared at my boobs constantly and SO was beaming with pride.
Then, suddenly, we hit the 3 year mark, and he just started hating all of it. He wanted all my dresses to be longer. He would tell me not to wear anything that “made my boobs look fake” (ie: push up bra with low cut dress). He still likes tight dresses, but he really hates when I wear anything short or overly cleavage-y. We were recently invited to a lingerie party, and I had a great ensemble ready, and he just said no way…you are not wearing lingerie to a party.
I think his current attitude is pretty normal, but a lot of my friends say their boyfriends are constantly begging them to show more skin…and then of course I’ve read articles saying men really don’t like when their women wear revealing clothing, because it gives strange men a chance to see their bodies. How does your H/SO feel about clothes, and what do you think changed my SO’s opinion? My mom says it’s a matter of A.) maturity and B.) seeing me more as a future wife, and less like a new hookup.
Sorry for so many posts- I find you ladies so interesting 🙂
Post # 3
Firstly, I dress for myself, not Fiance. I generally am reasonably conservative. He doesn’t particularly mind what I wear, unless it is particularly whorish (which it never is, unless I’m doing fancy dress). If it is pretty whorish, he’ll say “put it away love. Your wobbly bits are showing. Nobody wants to see that over dinner!”
I know he likes me to dress “classically”, though. He’s a fan of smart, wide leg trousers with smartly cut shirts and pearls and dresses, especially 1950s dresses. He doesn’t like me in 1920s styles, for some reason… perhaps he thinks they don’t suit me as well. He also doesn’t like me in leggings or sportswear, because he thinks I look “chavvy and awful”. However, most of the stuff he doesn’t like is neither revealing nor non-revealing, really. He just likes and doesn’t like certain styles.
Post # 4
Ha, he wishes I dressed more revealing. LOL
Post # 5
@vorpalette: I know a man who requested AS HIS OWN BIRTHDAY PRESENT that his girlfriend buy a sexy dress from bebe. I wish my boyfriend’s birthday was as easy as buying something cute FOR MYSELF. lol
Post # 6
He wants me to dress in tighter/more revealing clothes. Not really because he wants to show me off but because he wants me to be more confident. I gained a decent amount of weight when we first started dating and then would only wear baggy clothes. Now that I’ve lost it he is encouraging me to show my body off a little more.
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
My Fiance is more into strappy stuff (shoes), sexy heels, and silky fabrics. He doesn’t care if the tata’s are out.
Post # 8
He has never asked me to dress more revealing or less conservative. He always comments that he likes my style, which he just describes as ” trendy”.
In college I used to wear more revealing stuff, but now I think I just strive to look pretty instead of trying to be all sexilicious lol
Post # 9
@pictureaccount: haha, I get it. When Fiance first met me, I was definitely rockin my single girl and confident look. Tight tops, revealing clothes, and my wardrobe was definitely more daring. When we started dating, he’d love when we’d go out to the bars together and I’d dress like that, because in his words, he wanted everyone to know he was there with “a girl that hot.”
Its been two years and now we’re engaged and he gets all protective if we’re out and guys ogle me. He still appreciates that I look good for him, but it’s definitely in a classier, toned down way. Now that I’m his soon to be wife and not just his casual girlfriend, I think his perspective has changed, but it’s not necessarily a bad thing. If I’m feeling wild, I’ll still go all out once in awhile and he definitely notices and appreciates the extra sexy, but I do reserve the majority of it now for his eyes only 😉
Post # 10
I go through spurts in time where I feel like dressing sexier and spurts in time when I don’t really feel like it. Like a PP mentioned, I dress for myself and no one else. Darling Husband has suggested I wear certain dresses if we’re going out, and will mention that he wouldn’t mind seeing me in a particular pair of shoes, but he has never said “you’re not wearing that”.
All in all, my husband DGAF. And if he ever policed what I wore, I’d shoot him down so fast his head would spin. He knows better. 😉
Post # 11
I don’t wear clothing that is overly revealing, no short skirts or Daisy Dukes (and FI-to-be prefers it that way) but as I have a very large bust, I do wear low cut scoop neck or deep V neck tops, because they flatter my shape more.
I wear slightly more revealing outfits when we go out clubbing etc. but noting trashy/slutty. I think women look sexier when they leave a little something to the imagination
Post # 12
I tend to not show as much as other ladies I’ve seen in my area, but on the occassion that I am wearing something tight, or if my shirt is low cut. He’ll make a positive comment. There was only one time if I asked him if something was a bit slutty, and he said, “I like it… just don’t wear it around my parents.”
So… not sure if that helped. I think there is a way to be classy & sexy without being porn starrish and whatnot.
Post # 13
My boyfriend loves the way I dress… I dress “vintage cute” but most of my dresses are short. He loves my butt and loves when my clothes accentuate it… The other day I tried on a reallllly short skirt and.he wanted me to wear it, but then I reminded him that if HE can see my underwear, everyone else can too… so he changed his mind. LOL
Post # 14
Me: Do you ever wish I would dress differently? You know, like more sexy or whatever?
Fiance: No, sweetheart. I love you just the way you are.
Me: Awww, thanks, love!
Fiance: Besides, it’s not like I suddenly forget what you look like naked just cuz you put on clothes.
Me: Um, I guess that’s true…
Post # 15
I’m a jeans and a tshirt type of girl, so Fiance is always happy when I decide to wear more revealing clothing. Nothing indecent, mind you.
Post # 16
@pictureaccount: How old were you when you started dating? Dresses that barely skim your ass sound like the ensembles college girls wear to parties trolling for hook ups. Maybe he’s developed a classier sense of style along with age.