(Closed) How do/will you address your in-laws?

posted 7 years ago in Family
  • poll: How do/will you address your in-laws?
    Mom and Dad : (14 votes)
    11 %
    by their first names : (101 votes)
    78 %
    Mr. and Mrs. _____ : (8 votes)
    6 %
    other : (6 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    4887 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I have no plans to call my in laws mom and dad.  They will be called by their first names.  Just like I wouldn’t want them to call me their daughter…. unless it was followed by ‘in law’.  🙂

    Post # 4
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    1473 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I call my Future Mother-In-Law by her first name. However, my Future Father-In-Law I call in Tato. Tato is how you say dad in Macedonian and that is what I call him, his brothers’ girlfriends call him and his mom even calls him that haha. But I would feel very strange calling them mom and dad, because they aren’t my parents.

    If it makes you feel weird, just call them what you feel most comfortable with.

    Post # 5
    Member
    573 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I’ll continue calling them by their first names! My mom and dad are my mom and dad, they’re my FI’s mom and dad. 🙂

    Post # 6
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    2731 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I’ve only ever had to call his mom something once and I called her Ms. Herfirstname. I think it’d be more comfortable just calling his parents by their first names, but I was 18 when I met them, and I’m only 21 now so I feel kinda disrespectful calling them that.

    Post # 7
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    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I call them by their first names, sometimes mum and dad in law for jokes 🙂

    Post # 8
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    9053 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I pretty much avoid calling them anything at all, because we’ve never really discussed what I’m supposed to call them, but I suppose if I had to call them from across a room or something, I’d go with first name.

    Post # 9
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    10287 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’ve called my in laws by their first names since the day I met them. I would never call them “mom” and “dad” because they’re not my parents. I couldn’t imagine ever calling my Mother-In-Law mom. I think it would really upset my mother. You know, the one who raised me.

    Post # 10
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    2791 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Good question! I’m thinking mom and dad but it might be weird to get right into it. I will probably keep on calling them Tita and Tito for a while which is what I call them now. Tita and Tito is like Aunt and Uncle in our language.

    Post # 11
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    701 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    My SO and his father have the same name so I call his dad “Dad S*” and I call him mom “Momma Lough”

    Post # 12
    Member
    1370 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I call Mother-In-Law “Mama T”

    Post # 13
    Member
    826 posts
    Busy bee

    Mr. and Mrs. _______ .

    I was raised to refer to the parents of your friends and your significant other as Mr./Mrs. Lastname.  I would sooner call my future in-laws “Mom”/”Dad” than call them by their first names.  Using first names just seems disrespectful.   

    Post # 14
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    689 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Hmm I have no idea. In the 4+ years we’ve been together I’ve never spoken to his mom so I have no idea. His dad…while I don’t call him anything to his face, to others I call him Dad #2 mainly because he always sends me awesome presents for birthdays and Christmas and just because.

    Mister doesn’t really call my parents anything either. He calls my dad “Jimbo” sometimes, but thats it.

    Post # 15
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    10287 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @ThingsThatShine: Must be regional/cultural. No one that I know refers to their IL’s by anything other than their first names. Growing up, certain friends parents were Mr. & Mrs. but now that we’re all adults, everyone is addressed by their first names. My mom never wanted my friends to call her Mrs. _____. I guess we’re just pretty casual. 

    Post # 16
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    98 posts
    Worker bee

    I have no idea what I’m going to call them! I actually avoid calling them anything right now as well. They signed a christmas card for me last year with their first names but not the american-ized way and I’d feel so awkward calling them that unless I knew for sure thats what they want lol.

    I wouldn’t mind calling them mom and dad thought, they’re the sweetest people in the world and i already consider them my second parents. 

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