Post # 1
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Busy bee
I brought this up to Fiance, and he says he’s assuming his parents are going to want me to call them Mom and Dad, which I’m fine with, but it’s going to feel a little strange in the beginning calling someone else besides my parents mom and dad.
*edit* we currently still call each other’s parents Mr. and Mrs. because neither of us felt comfortable calling elders by their first name (probably a cultural thing). that pretty much limits us to mom and dad after marriage, or some term of endearment for it.
Post # 3
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Honey bee
I have no plans to call my in laws mom and dad. They will be called by their first names. Just like I wouldn’t want them to call me their daughter…. unless it was followed by ‘in law’. 🙂
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
I call my Future Mother-In-Law by her first name. However, my Future Father-In-Law I call in Tato. Tato is how you say dad in Macedonian and that is what I call him, his brothers’ girlfriends call him and his mom even calls him that haha. But I would feel very strange calling them mom and dad, because they aren’t my parents.
If it makes you feel weird, just call them what you feel most comfortable with.
Post # 5
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Busy bee
I’ll continue calling them by their first names! My mom and dad are my mom and dad, they’re my FI’s mom and dad. 🙂
Post # 6
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Sugar bee
I’ve only ever had to call his mom something once and I called her Ms. Herfirstname. I think it’d be more comfortable just calling his parents by their first names, but I was 18 when I met them, and I’m only 21 now so I feel kinda disrespectful calling them that.
Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
I call them by their first names, sometimes mum and dad in law for jokes 🙂
Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
I pretty much avoid calling them anything at all, because we’ve never really discussed what I’m supposed to call them, but I suppose if I had to call them from across a room or something, I’d go with first name.
Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
I’ve called my in laws by their first names since the day I met them. I would never call them “mom” and “dad” because they’re not my parents. I couldn’t imagine ever calling my Mother-In-Law mom. I think it would really upset my mother. You know, the one who raised me.
Post # 10
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Sugar bee
Good question! I’m thinking mom and dad but it might be weird to get right into it. I will probably keep on calling them Tita and Tito for a while which is what I call them now. Tita and Tito is like Aunt and Uncle in our language.
Post # 11
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Busy bee
My SO and his father have the same name so I call his dad “Dad S*” and I call him mom “Momma Lough”
Post # 12
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Bumble bee
I call Mother-In-Law “Mama T”
Post # 13
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Busy bee
Mr. and Mrs. _______ .
I was raised to refer to the parents of your friends and your significant other as Mr./Mrs. Lastname. I would sooner call my future in-laws “Mom”/”Dad” than call them by their first names. Using first names just seems disrespectful.
Post # 14
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Busy bee
Hmm I have no idea. In the 4+ years we’ve been together I’ve never spoken to his mom so I have no idea. His dad…while I don’t call him anything to his face, to others I call him Dad #2 mainly because he always sends me awesome presents for birthdays and Christmas and just because.
Mister doesn’t really call my parents anything either. He calls my dad “Jimbo” sometimes, but thats it.
Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
@ThingsThatShine: Must be regional/cultural. No one that I know refers to their IL’s by anything other than their first names. Growing up, certain friends parents were Mr. & Mrs. but now that we’re all adults, everyone is addressed by their first names. My mom never wanted my friends to call her Mrs. _____. I guess we’re just pretty casual.
Post # 16
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Worker bee
I have no idea what I’m going to call them! I actually avoid calling them anything right now as well. They signed a christmas card for me last year with their first names but not the american-ized way and I’d feel so awkward calling them that unless I knew for sure thats what they want lol.
I wouldn’t mind calling them mom and dad thought, they’re the sweetest people in the world and i already consider them my second parents.
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