(Closed) How (do/will) your children address your friends?

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Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

My very best friends will be Aunty/Uncle, and all other friends will just be first names. That’s how I was raised. 

Post # 18
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@missfrillycoat:  Growing up I was encourage to call people Mr. or Ms.  I plan to continue that with my child because I think it’s good manners.  Once they are older and show they can mind their manners, I may allow them to call them by their first names, especially if we spend a lot of time with them.

Post # 19
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Helper bee

My best friends son (1 year old) will call me Aunt Jo.  But her husbands older kids who came into the picture when they were ages 7 to 13 call me Miss Jo.  

I personally was not comfortable with Miss Jo and first but figure it is their kids and if thats how they want adults to be addressed who am I to say anything.  When they turned 18 I told them they didn’t need to call me Miss anymore, but they still do!

Post # 20
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Bumble bee

Aunt/uncle first name or mr/mrs/ms first name are both ok with me. I prefer aunt/uncle for close friends, but i find first names only inappropriate.  I have been called auntie many times but would probably cringe and correct a child if they used my first name only (I don’t think any of my friends would disagree). To me, first name only is inappropriate. 

Post # 21
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Busy bee

I have the same question about my 8 year old step son. I was raised that it’s disrespectful to call a “grown up” by their first name, that you called them Mr/Ms or if you had a special nickname for them, you used that.  Now my stepson calls my parents by their first names – they’ve never said anything about it but I know from my own upbringing that it’s not really their favorite.  I don’t know how to broach the subject with DH without seeming like a B – but I don’t think an 8 year old should call someone old enough to be their parent/grandparent by their first name.  Or any child for that matter!

Post # 22
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

Miss/Mr firstname for friends and Aunt/Uncle for relatives. I still call my mom’s friends Mister Bob/Miss Isabel etc..

Post # 23
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Our best friend’s 2.5yo calls us by our first names.  I always called my parents best friends by their first names and everyone else was Mr or Mrs SoandSo. 

We don’t have kids so we haven’t discussed it, but I think Aunt/Uncle would be reserved for their aunts and uncles and first names would be just fine, except for friends of his (Taiwanese) parents – Mr/Ms all the way.  🙂

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

my best friend has a daughter whom i consider my niece, and she calls me aunt, and my FH uncle.

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I’m 28 years old and still cannot call ‘adults’ by their first names, other than in the workplace. I still call my friend’s parents Mr&Mrs. I have one friends whose parents were so adamant I call them  by their first names… the ONLY way I could do it was to transition to Auntie & Uncle. I think I would legit cringe if a child called me just by my first name, without me telling them to do so. I will probably teach my kids to use Auntie/Uncle if they’re close friends, Mr&Mrs for acquaintances and friend’s parents.

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Dd calls my 2 best friends titi firstname & the other aunt firstname, their husbands (also close friends) are uncle firstname. All other friends go by first name. We’re a casual group when it comes to that. She also calls cousins that are my age titi firstname. 

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Oh & best friends kids also call us aunt & uncle. 

Post # 28
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

I grew up calling my parents friends by their first names, anyone a generation above my parents was mr/mrs/miss…BUT people I didn’t know well/friends parents (until they told me otherwise) were Mr/Mrs/Miss whatever.  My friends all called my mom Mrs. Bibbleskip, no matter how many times she told them to call her Alice, they just never did – even now, most of them still won’t call her by her first name.

Post # 29
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Honey Beekeeper

Close friends of ours are called by their  first names.  With parents of friends, titles unless otherwise invited to use first names.  Aunt or Uncle  are reserved for their real aunt and uncles.  I know someone who grew to adulthood thinking that someone was related to him! 

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

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@MsGinkgo:  I agree with this and also its what the person is comfortable with

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