Post # 1
So, I know that proper etiquette says we mail the invites 6-8 weeks ahead of time, so
between May 8 and May 22.
My original plan was to send them May 3 (two months/8.5 weeks in advance).
Now is 13 weeks
April 10 is 12 weeks
April 17 is 11 weeks
April 24 is 10 weeks
May 1 is 9 weeks
May 8 is 8 weeks, and I just can’t bear to wait longer than that.
The RSVP by date is May 20. We are hoping to invite a round from the B list… depending on response (we may not get to invite any of them).
My SO wants to mail them NOW. That is way way super early in my opinion, but i would like to sent them early. How early is too early?
We sent save-the-dates, but no one really went to our website.
How early did you send yours?
Post # 3
We sent out ours 10 weeks early so as of last saturday. We sent ours out that early due to a lot of out of town guests.
Post # 4
@Sassygrn:We also have lots of out of town guests, but we mailed out save-the-date cards. I don’t think they were that effective, though. Does it still follow that we can mail them early if we’re mostly mailing to out of towners?
Post # 5
If you did STD than I would do the 6 to 8 weeks. We didn’t do STD only because no one would understand them.
Post # 6
@Sassygrn:Cool. I’m going to do the 8.5 weeks then, I think. I don’t think anyone will be upset over the 3 days.
Post # 7
We sent ours 12 weeks out, but 80% of our guest list was out of town, and we wanted that to be the “No really, book your hotel rooms or you lose the discount 9 weeks out” reminder
Post # 8
We sent ours yesterday! Personally, it’s 3 months from the date, and 2 months from RSVP date. I don’t care if it’s early I wanted them gone! We did Save-The-Date Cards (hehe) so it’s not like they didn’t know about it. Also maybe….2% Out of Town (we’re not doing hotel blocks either)
Post # 9
I read that invitations should be sent out at the 3 month mark. So, you are getting married in exactly 3 months, so you should send them today.
Post # 10
We’re sending ours out tomorrow, so by the time guests get them, it will be about 9.5 weeks away. Our RSVP date is May 5th.
Post # 11
Last saturday (may 27) i recieved 2 wedding invites…one for July 2 and one for July 10…..so i dont think it matters!
Post # 12
We want our RSVP’s back June 10th so we can finalize things with vendors so sending them out in a week or so is the best. I don’t think it is too early to send them out now depending on when your RSVP deadline is.
Post # 13
I think we sent ours out at the beginning of May with a RSVP date of May 21st for our July 9th wedding, but a good chunk of our guests were out of town, and we wanted to make sure they reserved their hotel rooms before our discount expired, like someone else mentioned.
I received an invite (not a STD since it was a pocketfold and had a request for reply by June 1st) for a September wedding at the beginning of February this year.
Post # 14
Thanks to your input, my mom (and dad!) gave us the OK for 10 weeks–with the excuse that I’ll be in San Francisco then, so the stamps will be cancelled with a San Francisco stamp instead of a Virginia one.
Whatever the reason, mom, dad and SO agreed on something for once. 10 weeks it is!
Thanks bees for your support and thoughts.
Post # 15
This is one of the areas of wedding etiquette where I’ve seen conflicting answers from otherwise reputable sources. The three most common answers are 6-8 weeks, 2 months, or 3 months. We’ll probably do it at 10 weeks because both I and our parents are antsy. 🙂
Post # 16
Funny, my mom is the opposite and is asking why we haven’t sent our invitations yet (5 months in advance). I told her we will as soon as she provides names and addresses of her guests 🙂
Since your wedding is on a holiday weekend, I think earlier is better. Ours is on Labor Day weekend and we didn’t send save-the-dates, so we plan to send our invites out in a few weeks.