Post # 1
Our wedding is travel for almost 3/4 of our guest list because it is where I grew up (where we don’t live either). It’s in a large city with plenty of tourism, so hotels can get a little expensive, even with the hotel blocks we’ve set up. I know people debate what is called a “destination” wedding, but I figure that such a high percentage of long distance guests probably counts.
Fiance and I were discussing our invite timeline yesterday and I thought I’d get some feedback on when other couples sent their STD? Some people on here tend to send them out, what I consider, very early. Others seem to wait far later than I would think is courteous for this big a travel list. I know it’s different person to person, so when did you send yours? Why?
I’m considering eight months out for the save the date, and four months out (right after Christmas so as not to get lost in the card shuffle) for the invitations.
Post # 2
Everyone had to travel for our wedding as we don’t live near anyone anymore and they’re on opposite coasts so it seemed unfair to put the spending all on one side. We sent out STDs at the end of Feb, I think, so 4ish months ahead of time. However we only had 6 months of planning in the first place. I might have given a bit longer if we’d had more time, though I doubt it would have made a difference in who did/did not attend.
I still sent out invitations at a more typical time – they know the date is coming, there’s no need to send them so early that they all get lost. I wouldn’t do much more than 2 months ahead for those, personally.
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise
We are sending them about 11 months in advance, but in our case there’s international travel involved. We’re also planning to book AirBnBs for groups of friends who want to stay together and we need to know roughly how large a space we’ll need.
I think the typical recommendation is 5-6 months for a destination wedding, but depending on the season and how much demand there might be in the city, you might want to give people more lead time.
My typical thought is better to have the time and not need it vs need and not have.
Post # 4
I sent mine exactly one year before. It’s an internatinal destination wedding though for a majority of the guests. I was hoping flight information would be available by then, but it wasn’t.
Post # 5
7 months for our “domestic destination” wedding.
Post # 6
We sent our destination Save The Dates at the 8 month mark, invitations at the 5, rehearsal dinner invitations at the 4.
Post # 7
8 months for our ‘destination’ wedding. it’s in the US but everyone will be traveling so i wanted to get the save the dates and hotel info out to everyone as soon as possible!
Post # 8
This sounds like the exact situation we had- wedding in my touristy hometown, with most people coming from at least 2.5 hours away, if not more.
We sent out STD 8 or 9 months ahead of time (I would have done 9 or 10 month, but didn’t want them to get lost in the Christmas mail). We sent out invitations about 10 weeks before.
Post # 9
We’re having a 7 month engagement so it’s pretty short and an international destination wedding. We sent out save the dates 6 months in aance, and I’m sending out invites about 3 months in advance.
Post # 10
10 months for our domestic destination wedding. Now wondering if I should ask for RSVPs early too.
Post # 11
Several friends/family all live out of country so we’re sending Save the Dates a year in advance, the actual invites will go out 3 months in advance.
Post # 12
We have about 40% of guests travelling from interstate (and 3 international) and sent save the dates about 9 months before our wedding date. Invites will be sent out about 3 months before wedding.