(Closed) How early did you send out "destination" save the dates?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How far in advance did you send out your "destination" save the dates?

    4 - 5 months

    6 - 7 months

    8 - 9 months

    10 - 11 months

    1 year or more

  • Post # 2
    6217 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Everyone had to travel for our wedding as we don’t live near anyone anymore and they’re on opposite coasts so it seemed unfair to put the spending all on one side.  We sent out STDs at the end of Feb, I think, so 4ish months ahead of time. However we only had 6 months of planning in the first place.  I might have given a bit longer if we’d had more time, though I doubt it would have made a difference in who did/did not attend.

    I still sent out invitations at a more typical time – they know the date is coming, there’s no need to send them so early that they all get lost.  I wouldn’t do much more than 2 months ahead for those, personally.

    Post # 3
    2130 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise

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    lexipediabride :  We are sending them about 11 months in advance, but in our case there’s international travel involved. We’re also planning to book AirBnBs for groups of friends who want to stay together and we need to know roughly how large a space we’ll need. 

    I think the typical recommendation is 5-6 months for a destination wedding, but depending on the season and how much demand there might be in the city, you might want to give people more lead time.

    My typical thought is better to have the time and not need it vs need and not have.

    Post # 4
    1593 posts
    Bumble bee

    I sent mine exactly one year before. It’s an internatinal destination wedding though for a majority of the guests. I was hoping flight information would be available by then, but it wasn’t.

    Post # 5
    1885 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    7 months for our “domestic destination” wedding.

    Post # 6
    42 posts
    • Wedding: October 2017

    We sent our destination Save The Dates at the 8 month mark, invitations at the 5, rehearsal dinner invitations at the 4.

    Post # 7
    21 posts
    • Wedding: March 2018

    8 months for our ‘destination’ wedding. it’s in the US but everyone will be traveling so i wanted to get the save the dates and hotel info out to everyone as soon as possible!

    Post # 8
    2260 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    This sounds like the exact situation we had- wedding in my touristy hometown, with most people coming from at least 2.5 hours away, if not more.


    We sent out STD 8 or 9 months ahead of time (I would have done 9 or 10 month, but didn’t want them to get lost in the Christmas mail).  We sent out invitations about 10 weeks before.

    Post # 9
    299 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    We’re having a 7 month engagement so it’s pretty short and an international destination wedding. We sent out save the dates 6 months in aance, and I’m sending out invites about 3 months in advance.

    Post # 10
    119 posts
    Blushing bee

    10 months for our domestic destination wedding. Now wondering if I should ask for RSVPs early too.

    Post # 11
    58 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    Several friends/family all live out of country so we’re sending Save the Dates a year in advance, the actual invites will go out 3 months in advance.

    Post # 12
    582 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    We have about 40% of guests travelling from interstate (and 3 international) and sent save the dates about 9 months before our wedding date. Invites will be sent out about 3 months before wedding.

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