(Closed) How early is too early?

posted 8 years ago in September 2011
Post # 3
368 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I don’t think it is too early for you to start shopping. The only thing I have noticed is brides that shop early sometimes pick a gown and then think about it and change their minds. While planning your ideas change, and depending on your venue you might want a different dress. I would suggest picking out the venue for reception before you dress shop so that you can have an idea of what theme/feel you want. If you guys decide to get married on the beach you are going to regret getting a big ball-gown and vice versa. 

We originally wanted to have a small wedding on the beach and I bought a simple dress to go with that theme. We ended up giving in and having a more traditional wedding in a church, and then I wished I would have waited because my dress choice might have been different.

Hope that helps 😉

Post # 4
4765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

As someone who has had a long engagement and bought her dress 15 months early, I’d recommend waiting. I got really antsy to get my dress, and I wouldn’t say that I regret my choice – I still love my dress – but I wish I would have taken my time and tried on more.

I don’t think it’s too early to start shopping – feel free to try dresses on and start getting an idea of what works for you…but I’d definitely recommend holding off on buying anything.

Post # 5
147 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

My engagement will end up being about 15 months and I waited till 9 months because I was afraid a new style would come out that i would love. It did!  I would go try some on and get a feel but wait to actually order it.

Post # 6
219 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I am in the same situation. I have been so antsy to try on dresses, that I actually went when I visting my parents last month. I knew my mom was antsy to see me try them on too!

I think it is okay to go now to get an idea of what you like and don’t like, such as what kind of neckline, skirt, color, beading, etc. It was awkward for me because even though the salesperson knew it was first time trying on dresses and that my wedding isn’t until next August, she pushed and pushed for me to buy one. Truthfully, I didn’t feel too much pressure because out of the 8 dresses I tried on I didn’t completely “love” any of them. However, I did find out what kinds of things I will look for when I am ready.

One piece of advice – try on at least one piece that you would never have selected for yourself. You might be amazed at how much you like it 🙂

So in summary: go experiment! Get an idea of what you like! But wait to purchase just incase something new or better comes along. You have lots of time to make the right decision!

Post # 7
824 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011 - The Tribute Golf Club

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with trying on dresses now! It’s nice to get an idea of what you want, I went into the dress shopping experience thinking I wanted one type of dress and ended up with another type of dress.  But like you’ve heard before, when you do find the one and buy it, don’t keep looking because then you might wish you had waited. 

Post # 8
57 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I bought my dress in November, a whole 20 months in advance and I love it more and more everyday.  I have friends who bought theirs and were like me and loved having that part of the wedding planning over (I think it makes the whole thing seem very real if you’re having a longer engagement).  But my cousin had an engagement just as long as mine and she bought hers two months after getting engaged and ended up deciding that she hated the dress so she returned it (she’s lucky most places won’t let you) bought a new one and now when she looks at her wedding pictures she wishes she had kept her original dress.

For me the thing that helps is actually having the dress (sans alterations) in my closet.  This allows me to look at it about once a month and try it on once every 4-3 months to maintain my LOVE with it.  I also knew what kind of wedding I was having (venue, time, etc) and I purchased a very classic dress that is not trendy so I don’t run the risk of it going out of style.  I also stopped buying any bridal magazines with the exception of Martha Stewart (the others seem to be nothing but bridal gown advertisements) so that has stopped me from continuing to look at other gowns.

Post # 9
806 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m a September bride and I ordered my dress the prior November, which was plenty of time.

I think it depends on you – are you the type who will change your mind a million times, or will you be fairly set in your choice once you order one?  If you are more of a flip-flopper, I’d hold off until closer.

Post # 10
48 posts
  • Wedding: September 2011

Hiya! September ’11 bride here too!!!

I wish i could go dress shopping!!! Its something i always wanted to do since we tagged along with my aunt years ago. But i’m getting mine made, am going for a corset and skirt ensemble. But im tempted to go look at dresses anyway!!!


Its never too early! You can go looking all you want, theres nothing saying you have to buy one immediatley! besides, if you start looking early, you can get the best deals! maybe you’l find a gorgeous dress and then you can find it in a sale at the end of the season, and get your dream dress at a fab price!!!


Post # 12
202 posts
Helper bee

I got engaged in October 2009 and am planning an August 2011 wedding and am already planning.  We have reserved our reception hall and photographer and are working on the guest list.  I have not actively been looking for a dress, but have kept my eye out for any sales, trunk sales, shows, etc. It’s never to early to start planning.  If you start now, you’ll have less to take care of later and therefore, hopefully, it will be less stressful near the end.  Happy Shopping! Laughing

Post # 13
199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m going to wait to go dress shopping because I want to be sure nothing new and trendier comes out that I would love! Aside from the general feel of the wedding I won’t plan too much too soon.

Post # 14
9 posts
  • Wedding: September 2011

Think its best to pick a dress when you want. As someone said before — if you are the type to change your mind easily maybe you should wait before making a final decision. Personally, I have not done any dress shopping because I’m dreading it. 

Post # 15
674 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I got my dress a year and four months before my wedding date.

Post # 16
1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

If you want to look–by all means do it!  I think that’s one of the most fun parts of wedding planning.  I wish I had spent a lot more time looking and really solidifying what I wanted (switched my dresses twice!). But definitely wait to buy!

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