Post # 1
I’ve gotten a complaint from a Bridesmaid or Best Man concerning my timeline. She thinks starting getting ready at 11:30 is too early for my 5:30 wedding. My hair and makeup team are planning to arrive at 11:30 too. I would like to be dressed and ready to start my own pictures at 1:30. So I’ll have 3 hours of taking my own pictures, group pictures and first look pictures.
Would you be upset as a Bridesmaid or Best Man to show up at 11:30 for a 5:30 pm ceremony?
I’m having lunch catered and paying for hair and makeup in a suite near the capital where we are taking photos. Should I offer those who don’t want to participate in getting ready to just meetup at the venue at 4:30?
Post # 3
@Captain013: I wouldn’t be upset; especially since you’re buying lunch. also i’ve never been in a wedding but have seen a lot ofpeople on here saying that getting ready was one of the most fun parts
Post # 4
Has your Bridesmaid or Best Man been a Bridesmaid or Best Man before? If not, she’d probably be surprised at how much time it takes to get ready and take pictures, etc. I mean I guess if she has something else going on that morning, I can understand not being able to be there right at 11:30, but she just doesn’t want to be? I feel like getting ready with the bride and other bridesmaids is part of the fun of the whole day! And you’re being nice enough to buy lunch and pay for hair and makeup? I think it’s kind of crappy of her to complain. Why add more stress for you to have to worry about her actually showing up on time?
Post # 5
Honsetly I would probably let my bm decide what they would rather do. I’m sure most wouldwant to be with you and enjoy the whole, getting ready, hair, make up etc. If for some reason it’s too early for others I would let them come later.
Post # 6
Definitely not too early. My makeup artist & hairstylists will be starting on us at 11a for our 5p ceremony. Like a PP said, has she been a Bridesmaid or Best Man before? The timing sounds pretty accurate to me.
Post # 7
@li612: I thought that too, but I am not sure if I am being unreasonable. Fiance and I paid for 10 hours of photography becuase it came with the package we wanted. So I’d like to be able to use it.
Post # 8
No I wouldn’t be upset. I was just in a wedding where hair and makeup started at 7am, for a 3pm ceremony and we just had enough time to get ready without rushing, and take photos and get to the church at 2:55.
Comes with the territory. She should be excited for the girls morning together, AND she can sleep in!! What is there to complain about?! Haha
Post # 9
I got married at 6:30 and my girls showed up at 12pm. We did have a first look though, as well as group shots before. I don’t think it’s too early if you need them there.
Post # 10
Are you kidding me?! 11:30 is NOT early for a 5:30 ceremony! In every wedding I’ve been in, we’ve started getting ready around 9 or 10. Sometimes it was tough if the rehearsal dinner night got a little rowdy, but we made it work anyway. The day is about you and spending time with your closest people before you get married, and I don’t think it’s too much to ask AT ALL that the bridesmaids be there at 11:30.
Post # 11
She was a Maid/Matron of Honor before, and shes my Maid/Matron of Honor. I would think the other wedding would have been similier. She doesn’t work or anything(that day) so I guess she just doesn’t want to be there that early. I can just ask her when she wants to showup and cancel her lunch, makeup and hair if need be.
We are doing all the photos before the ceremony. We will only be doing family pictures after the ceremony.
Post # 12
@Captain013: She’s your Maid/Matron of Honor and doesn’t want to be there with you?! Yikes…
I don’t think 11:30 is unreasonable at all. I think she’s being unreasonable.
Post # 13
We are having a 4 pm wedding and our hair/makeup will start at 9 am. I think your timeline is sound, and I really don’t think your bridesmaid should complain about an 11:30 start time.
Post # 14
I just checked the timeline from our wedding planner and for our 6:30 ceremony we have a 1 pm start time. However, we will all be in the same place anyway as we are staying the night before in our venue so there isn’t any risk to someone being late.
I think it is a totally reasonable time, especially if you are doing a first look and photos before the ceremony.
Post # 15
It takes a long time for the MUA and hair person to do multiple people’s looks! Since people can’t get ready at the same time, it adds a lot to the timeline. Try explaining it like that. Also, things always run long – better to get a head start!
Post # 16
not to play devily advocate or anything but I know if I went from 11:30 -ceremony and pictures and didn’t eat anything until dinner at… 7:30 maybe? I would probably be starved, grumpy, and passing out. 11:30 is kind of early for lunch though, do you have a snack time planned in there? or a big brunch before hand to keep them tied over?
I understand 11:30 is a fine time for getting ready and it should be done, but make sure they get fed