Post # 1
I’m new here, so forgive me if this is posted somewhere else. I just got engaged last week and we’re not getting married until August 2013, 13 months from now. Fiance and I have started planning a little bit, and I’m dying to ask my Maid/Matron of Honor to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. Is it too soon? Should I try to enjoy my engagement a little longer or should I ask my bridesmaids as soon as possible to help me plan when Fiance isn’t here?
Post # 3
I waited about a month before I asked my girls, mostly because I was putting together a surprise for them, which was about a 11 months out from our actual wedding day. I am still very happy with my decisions and can’t wait to see them in their dresses! (They just came in last week!)
Post # 4
I got engaged Dec. 5, 2011 and asked all of them before christmas. I also live out of state from them all and I was seeing them in person during that time.
Post # 5
Its recomended to wait awhile since things do change a lot in a year. We lost a groomsmen and it was pretty nasty only 4 months before the wedding. You can have her around to help without asking her quite yet.
Post # 6
I searched this topic a little while ago, and most ladies on these boards are adamant that waiting is the smarter idea. But if you decide not to, that makes 2 of us, because my Maid/Matron of Honor and I have never had a fight in the 6 years we’ve been friends, and whether we see each other every week or every 6 months, we never drifted apart, so I asked her :). She was delighted, and I am too.
ETA: that’ll make it nearly 23 months out for me. What can I say?… we’re that good 🙂
Post # 7
I asked all of my girls right away – the wedding will be 16 months after the engagement.
I had no doubts as to who I wanted.
Post # 8
I don’t think it’s too early if you’re absolutely sure who you want by your side on the big day 🙂
Post # 9
i held off for about 6 months, so that it was just about a year out because i wanted to figure out what our definite wedding plans were before recruiting a bridal party (it would be REAL awkward to unask a Bridesmaid or Best Man because we ended up having a lowkey ceremony and backyard BBQ).
Post # 10
I am getting married in August 2013 as well, and I asked my Maid/Matron of Honor and BMs like a day after we got engaged in February. I say its never too early as long as you’re sure.
Post # 11
I don’t think its ever too soon to ask your bridal party if you are sure of your decision. I took a few months to ask them because I was unsure about including a couple of my other girlfriends.
Ask away girl!
Post # 12
We’ll be engaged 13 months. I asked my girls a month later (so 1 year in advance). You don’t want to ask to early (things happen– even close friends can change), but you also don’t want to spring it on them last minute (it’s costly to be in a bridal party).
Post # 13
My sister asked me to be her Maid/Matron of Honor within an hour of being engaged haha. But that’s family and we are super super close. She didn’t ask her friends until about a month or two later. And my 2 best friends are getting married in may 2014 and He asked my SO to be a Groomsmen and she asked me to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man lol . LONG TIME AWAY! haha but we’ve been friends forever!
Post # 14
I plan to ask my Maid/Matron of Honor ASAP, but that’s because I plan to ask my step sister to be my Maid/Matron of Honor, and that isn’t going to change! 🙂 I only have one!
Post # 15
I’d wait till about 6 months before. I was engaged in December and was so excited I asked Maid/Matron of Honor in January, looking back I wish I had waited longer and put more thought into it..
Post # 16
I knew for certain who I wanted (the engagement was a long time coming lol) so I asked them all within 2 weeks of getting engaged.