(Closed) How early is too early for a gender reveal party???

posted 7 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: When would you have a gender reveal party?

    As soon as I find out! (15-17 weeks.)

    18-20 weeks (after anatomy scan)

    20+ weeks (when I'm good and huge!

    I wouldn't have a gender reveal party. They're stupid!

    If you choose ^^ this option above, get off my poll!! :op I don't want your opinion anyway! lol.

  • Post # 17
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

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    @barbie86:  I totally agree with Barbie – pretty soon there will be ovulation parties and then I had sex parties and maybe I am pregnant parties – oh and can you imagine a push party! Ha!  I just don’t get all the me, me, me crap. End of my rant.

     

    Post # 18
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    In my opinion it’s either a shower or a gender reveal, never both. I had never heard of them before the Bee and still don’t really see the point. As for the timing for those who do have them, whenever you know 100%, which sometimes doesn’t even happen until birth (known people who the doctors said they knew for sure and it was opposite),

    Post # 19
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    But really – the poll results stand on their own. Just view the poll results.

    Post # 20
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    Buzzing bee

    I am planning on having one, once pregnant (which won’t be for a while). We’ll wait until our anatomy scan just to be sure, because I’m paranoid like that. I want to host a party/dinner with our immediate family, close extended family, as well as close friends – we’ll have a lovely meal, wine (not for me!) and find some fun way to announce our babies gender (I like the cake cutting one, where the inside of the cake is pink or blue; or the ‘wear pink or blue for what gender you think the baby is’ way).

    I really don’t understand why people get so worked up and stroppy about gender revel parties. If you’re talking about a couple hosting one and asking for or expecting gifts, well yeah, that’s unbelievably rude. If they then go and have a shower where they ask for or expect more gifts, you can be even more pissed off/offended.

    I, however, would be pissed off and offended if one of my immediate family members or close friends was annoyed that I was to host a party/dinner, provide everyone with a delicious meal, drinks and announce our babies’ gender. Seriously? You ‘love’ me and ‘care’ about me, but you’re offended that I want to invite you over for dinner and drinks to share something that I am extremely excited and happy about. Wow. Who the heck gets upset with free food, free drinks, free cake, an opportunity to spend time with their loved ones and share in the about-to-be-new-parents excitement…absurd.

    If you cannot be happy for someone you supposedly love and care about, you don’t seem like a very nice person.

    OP, you said “No gifts what so ever, just family, friends and fun.” I honestly cannot understand why anyone would have a problem with that and if they do, IMO, they’re probably not the kind of people you want to be involved in your life and your baby’s life anyhow.

    Post # 21
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    Bee Keeper

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    @Mischka:  It’s not a matter of getting ‘worked up and stroppy’. The way I feel is thus:

    You are pregnant. That’s great! I am REALLY happy for you. You are going to have either a girl or a boy; the sex of your baby REALLY doesn’t interest me. I am sure it’s super exciting to the parents, but to me, their friend/relative, honestly, I’m not that bothered. A baby is a baby and I’m genuinely not fussed whether it’s a boy or a girl.

    If you have a gender reveal party I will assume you are doing so because you want attention; and even if you specify ‘no gift’ I will feel obliged to show up with something in hand; I simply do NOT attend parties of any form empty-handed even if the invitation specifies ‘no gift’. 

    So, I’m therefore left spending out for a gift, to attend something which honestly, I’ll br brutally honest, I am not that bothered about.

    That’s just how I feel; and clearly, a lot of posters agree with me. I just don’t see the need. What’s wrong with telling people by phone/email/in person? Maybe that’s just British culture; I really hope this doesn’t catch on over here though :-s

    Post # 22
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    Buzzing bee

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    @newbabybee:  I could totally see some people having “I might be pregnant parties” and “Ovulation Day” parties!  Some people have to have attention for everything they do.

    Post # 23
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    Buzzing bee

    @barbie86:  If you’re not bothered in sharing something that they are obviously excited about, that’s fine. Decline the invitation. I too, would never attend an event, whether that be a birthday party, an engagement party, or a dinner party, empty handed. I usually bring a bottle of wine etc. not something that will break the bank and if I don’t want to go to said party, I decline. Simple. But judging those who choose to have one and their reasoning for doing so, isn’t exactly nice.

    If you really can’t find it within yourself to be happy that they’re happy, well, I find that very sad.

    I’m British (English) and I know of quite a few people who have had gender reveal parties, so perhaps they’re just not common in your circles, which is great for your friends and family, seeing as how you’d negatively judge them if they did decide to host one.

    Post # 24
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    Bee Keeper

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    @Mischka:  I stick by what I said: I find them attention-grabby and unnecessary. As do 44% of people who responded to this poll lol.

    It’s got nothing to do with not being happy for someone: it’s being tired of this ‘me me me’ culture where everyone thinks the planet revolves around them; and I feel gender reveal parties are part of that. The brutal truth is that most people do not care enough about the sex of your baby to feel it warrants an ‘exciting’ reveal party. That has nothing to do with not being happy for someone; as I said, I am VERY happy for anyone I know who has been trying for a baby and gets pregnant; I am very pleased and excited for them.

    But do I care if it’s a boy or a girl? Honestly, no. And I think that other than the parents and maybe the grandparents most people feel the same. They don’t care enough to want to attend a party where they get to ‘find out’ the sex.

    To me, it would be like having a ‘venue reveal’ party, or a ‘ring reveal’ party; I just find it off somehow. Ultimately, it’s about assuming that everyone cares as much as you do, and like it or not, your friends are probably NOT going to care as much about the sex of your baby as you do, and to me, assuming otherwise seems kind of ‘off’ and self-centred.

    Post # 25
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I voted 20+. Just to make sure you’re right before you announce :). And I think there’s nothing wrong with throwing a gender reveal party! I don’t know if I’d have one since my Future Mother-In-Law thinks they’re dumb but I think they’re fun. I feel like there’s a way to be humble about it and most pregnant women are capable of throwing showers/parties without it beng attention-grabby. Depends on your circle I guess. Have fun!

     

    Post # 26
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

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    @soontobemrsm11:  if you choose to have the full work up to screen for genetic problems, the blood test can detect fetal DNA. so it theres a Y chromosome then its a boy, if not…its a boy. id assume thats how they knew as its too early to tell on an ultrasound

    Post # 27
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

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    @newname_99:  yea i’ve heard that but she says it was “normal” blood work. but she may not want anyone to know that they tested for genetic issues for some reason. who knows. 

    Post # 28
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We had the anatomy scan at exactly 19 weeks, and had the party the following Sunday. You should be fine as long as the baby shows it’s privates 😉

    Post # 29
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 1998

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    @barbie86:  I’m 100% with you on this one. I agree with everything you’ve said and I know plenty of others who feel the same way!

    Post # 30
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    Buzzing bee

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    @barbie86:  I’m not expecting you to not stand by what you’ve said. You’re as entitled to your opinion as I am to mine. I also don’t see the need for your condescending comment about percentages – if 44% share your views, that means 56% share mine. I however, don’t need to use the votes on a weddingbee poll to justify my opinion.

    You’re also making a very broad and general assumption stating that the “The brutal truth is that most people do not care enough about the sex of your baby to feel it warrants an ‘exciting’ reveal party.” Perhaps in your circles people don’t care about their sisters, brothers, cousins or friends pregnancies, but I disagree that ‘most’ people have no interest.

    I guess I’m just surrounded by supportive, kind people, who love any opportunity to get together, celebrate each other’s success and/or happiness and don’t immediately label me as self-centred for hosting something as innocent as a gender reveal party.

    Post # 31
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    When we had ours it was immediate family only, no invitations, or anything like that… I never thought I was being an attention whore.. I just knew our families were excited for us and it was an excuse to have “family sunday dinner” and a pretty cake! 

    I would never invite someone who wasn’t excited for us, case in point, my best friend. She doesn’t want kids, hates babies, and has that outlook on life PP’s seem to have.. I didn’t even mention it to her! Because I know she’s not really the “let’s get excited for other people having babies!” Lol Just kept it family, it was amazing and special.

    It also got rid of the, you told DH’s mom first or I can’t believe you told Grammy first type thing! 

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