Post # 1
- Wedding: January 2020 - Waverly, Iowa
My fiancé and I have been engaged since October and will be getting married next January. The ring he proposed with is absolutely gorgeous (1ct center stone with 1/3 pave band); he purchased the ring from my uncle who is a jeweler, but he was in a tight money situation at the time, so I ended up paying for the ring. Which I am TOTALLY okay with, I just wanted to start wedding planning! 🙂
Big jewelry is something that most everyone in my family has because there’s a jeweler in the family who gives around a 60% discount on jewelry. I love the ring he got me but I’ve always imagined something bigger! I know my fiancé wants me to have my dream ring too, but at the time my current ring was the most we could afford.
Right now, money is more abundant and the wedding planning process is going amazingly. We have thought about upgrading my ring for the wedding, trading in my current ring to offset the cost a bit. Is it too early to do that?
I don’t want to seem ungrateful or greedy, but it’s something that I have always wanted and my fiancé wants me to have. We both work hard for our money and are financially stable. (We became homeowners at age 21!)
Will upgrading my ring to a 2ct stone for the wedding send the wrong vibes? Or should we do what we want? It seems like most people wait until they’ve been married for like 10+ years before upgrading, but I guess this is just one of our priorities.
PLEASE HELP THANKS 🙂
Post # 2
if it was the plan anyway, and you can easily afford it now… go ahead! I don’t really see an issue with it.
Post # 3
Only you two can answer this. If you both feel good about this then go for it! I’m not a fan of upgrading but that’s what’s right for us. Others go exchange the ring almost instantly because they didn’t like the proposal ring. Others wait 5 years. There’s no right way.
Post # 4
I don’t think there is such thing as “too soon.” You have to live in the moment. Personally, I wouldn’t waste another minute debating and just go for it! Especially considering that you are in a strong place financially and that you planned to upgrade from the beginning.
Post # 5
If that’s what you want to do and your fiancé is on board, go for it. You don’t have to tell anyone else you’ve done it. Most probably won’t even notice, and if they do, say, “Yes, I upgraded my stone. Uncle Jeweler came across the perfect one so we jumped at the chance.”
Then wiggle your fingers completely apologetically. 🙂
Post # 6
If you have the money and within the budget, I say go for it! I would too upgrade mine if I could.
Post # 7
I would upgrade tomorrow. Although it might have more meaning to wait until October, then your fiancé could give you the new ring on the anniversary of your engagement! Or yes you could wait until the wedding.
The reason people wait a long time for upgrades is because they wait to be financially stable. If you’re there already, you always planned an upgrade, and he likes the idea, go for it now! And post photos for us!!
Post # 8
Do it now! This actually is the perfect time. You are celebrating your marriage and starting your life together. Take it from this long-married Bee, life happens – maybe you start a family, and there are a million other things that will become financial priorities. It may be 20 years (after houses and kids and college educations) before you are again in the position to get your dream ring. My hubby inherited money at the perfect time so was able to get me my dream ring right when we got engaged. It had been my dream to have a beautiful (and big) ring since I had first noticed diamonds. There has not been one day, in my almost 21 years of marriage – that my ring hasn’t given me tremendous pleasure (I love jewelry – I have since I was little). Go get your dream ring, trade in the other one – and enjoy your new one. Don’t feel a bit sheepish or guilty about it. Hugs!
Post # 9
Ungrateful why? You paid for it. Greedy? No, I think it’s fair (and ads sentimental value) that he chips in to buy the ring you love.
Post # 11
Go 3 carats if u get a 60% discount!! : )
Post # 12
if both of you are happy to do it then yes absolutely. I would have him place it on your finger during the wedding ceremony to make it special. With a 60% discount jump-you only live once
Post # 13
Yes why not! If you can afford it and it’ll make you feel happier with your ring, just do it. If anyone notices and asks, be honest and say that although you loved the ring you got engaged with, you had the opportunity to have your dream ring and took it. Nothing wrong with that.
Post # 15
If you are both happy with the plan to upgrade ahead of the wedding I say do it! 🙂