Post # 46
It’s nobody’s business but yours and his, and if you’d already planned it, then of course you just do it
( l don’t myself believe an engagement or wedding ring can be ‘upgraded’, l think the original, whatever whatever size or type, is THE one, imbued with an irreplaceable significance. Of course they, or their stones can be physically replaced and l know a lot of people happily do so, l just don’t see it myself)
Post # 47
averagemom : I disagree with your arguments:
(1) “Classy” is subjective. Personally, I’ve often associated it with timelessness and more related to the setting than the stone size. I fail to see why 2 carats is less “genuine”.
(2) A 1 carat ring can just as easily scratch and be uncomfortable – this is more related to setting and jeweler skill than stone size. I wear a 2+ carat and I can easily wear gloves and walk my cat. Since it’s sized properly, it doesn’t fall typically and not more than the 1 carat did. Both sizes would require maintenence and neither are suggest when lifting weights.
(3) There are playgrounds where 2 carat rings are typical. More importantly, I’m not sure the OP would care to arrange playdates with mothers who judge by carat size.
(4) My ring was about 2k, which was about the cost of a recent vacation we were fortunate to take. My spouse is not so insecure to worry that he cannot provide “enough”, nor is our dynamic so retrograde as to relegate him alone as the provider. Furthermore, while we should value fiscal prudence, I don’t believe fear of failure should stop us from responsibly living our lives.
Post # 48
As someone who “upgraded” less than a year of getting married I say upgrade to the ring you want prior to the wedding because photos galore will happen and you will always wish you had the bigger diamond. Also it does sound like the two of you are financially stable and can comfortably afford it, then in a few years if you want to upgrade again do it.
I got engaged and married with an oval CZ 1.25 equivalent and upgraded to a family heirloom 4.6ct. I wish my husband had just proposed with the larger diamond instead of wasting money on the CZ. The ring was lovely and looks great in the photos but I do wish they had my current one instead.
Post # 49
All of what you stated are just YOUR assumptions. I upgraded to a 2 carat in a halo just 5 years into my marriage. I’m only 30 and I think my ring still looks classy because I have a custom made high quality setting. My 1 carat in a flimsy setting was more uncomfortable and turned more than this ring does. If the setting is made right your ring will be comfortable and you surely can wear it “ walking a dog or doing any normal things”. I wouldn’t wear any rings lifting weights just for the safety of my fingers! I think a 2 carat is not necessarily flashy. It’s all about how you wear it. Plus my halo has well made claw prongs and I have 2 kids and haven’t ever scratched my babies with it on. Your comments sounded very judgey and are just your opinions. They aren’t true for every person’s situation. averagemom :