(Closed) How early is too early? Why? Help with potential planning problems?

posted 6 years ago in April 2014
Post # 3
133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I think you can start planning but unless you are having a destination wedding you SUPER early on you STD and invites. 

Post # 4
331 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Our wedding is May 2014 and I’ve already booked our venue and caterer, bought my dress and  invitation kit. We’re doing our engagement pics/STD pics this spring. I booked the major stuff so I could get the best price – I got 2013 prices! And also because I wanted to make sure I got the vendors I wanted 🙂  I dont think you’re planning too early but I wouldnt send STD/invites just yet.

Post # 6
2874 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

well its only 14 months, just over a year in advance. i think thats pretty standard wedding organising time

people are not going to want to commit to an event in over a years time. sending them now would be pointless. they’ll say yes, and then have other commitments or say no and then want to go. the point of invitations and RSVPing (other than to invite people of course) is to try to get an accurate head count for food etc. thats nto going to happen if you send them now`

Post # 7
7649 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

You can get a general idea of a head count, which you said was about 114 invites, but I wouldn’t send Save-The-Date Cards right now as it is too early. As for invites if you send them out closer to the date you will be fine, but like PP said people will say yes, but they won’t commit more than year from the wedding. You did make a good move by booking all your big stuff though.

Post # 9
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Budget as if you’ll have 100% attendance. If you don’t, great, you spent less money! The risk of sending out Save-The-Date Cards too early is changing your mind about the guest list, but I think about a year in advance is fine, it’s just a concern to keep in mind. Save-The-Date Cards really won’t give you an diea of your head count though, plenty of guests will get it and say how they can’t wait, then not be able to go, or say they think they can’t come but then their plans change by the time invites are sent.

But you CANNOT ask for RSVPs in February for an April wedding, or send out invites in December, that’s a disaster waiting to happen. Many people will simple not be able to give an accurate answer that far in advance, and you’ll end up with an inaccurate headcount. And if people have a couple of months to respond to the invite, they’ll forget. You shouldn’t send out the invite more than a month or two before the wedding, and they shouldn’t have more than a few weeks to RSVP. With all the weddings I’ve ever been to, we’ve gotten the invite a little over a month before the wedding, and then it’s due back in a few weeks, so I have some time to check my schedule and request the time off work  – but not enough time that I just forget about it. Two or three weeks before the wedding is pretty standard for asking to get RSVPs back because that’s when your venue/caterer will want the final head count.


ETA: It sounds like you’ve pretty much made up your mind about insisting on getting RSVPs by February. I really think that’s going to backfire and that people will RSVP yes and then not be able to come, but obviously it’s your decision. I’ve just seen that kind of decision go horribly wrong for several brides on Weddingbee. 

Post # 10
6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

My wedding is in March 2014. He proposed this past Labor Day weekend. I already have a photog, venue, dress, 150 gold charger plates, and some leads on caterers. You aren’t planning too soon at all–in fact, planning early I think has saved me a lot of money.

BUT it’s way too early for invitations or even STD. I have heard Save-The-Date Cards should go out 6 mos early (unless you’re destination wedding) and invites about 6-8 weeks before the date. I know it’s hard to imagine because you’re the bride, but if you send them now people WILL forget about your wedding. Feel free to go ahead and do just about everything else, though.

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