(Closed) How early to accept rsvps for domestic destination wedding?

posted 4 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: What do you think? (can choose multiple)
    Good idea to accept rsvps as early as ppl want to give them : (3 votes)
    38 %
    Bad idea to accept rsvps early for reason described below : (0 votes)
    Don't let the site accept rsvps until 6 months before the wedding or less : (3 votes)
    38 %
    other described below : (2 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 3
    1426 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

    I can “Hide” my RSVP page.  I am sending out the website link on the STDs to OOT guests.  They can see all of the information EXCEPT for RSVP, Ceremony & reception details, and locations.  i do have the ‘Accomodations’ page available for those who wish to book early.  I will “unhide” these options when I send out the formal invitations 2-3 months prior to the wedding. 


    I would suggest not allowing RSVPs UNTIL you send your formal invites out.


    Post # 4
    7908 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    I think you should start accepting RSVPs when you send actual invitations (usually 6 weeks for a domestic wedding, but up to 8).

    Post # 5
    10368 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    you’re lucky if people RSVP at all, lol. I say accept what people are willing to give, when they are willing to give it. And if you can make it so people can’t change it, that’s definitely better.

    Post # 7
    7908 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    @Shkragoldfish:  I would not send invitation more than 8 weeks in advance. If those traveling might need more time to book a hotel or flight (though really almost 2 months is plenty), you can send Save-the-Dates, which I think you said you are doing/did anyway.

    I wouldn’t take them earlier for three reasons:

    1. People will be less likely to change their minds and hastle you.
    2. People you haven’t sent a STD to but decide later to invite won’t find out that they didn’t make that first-round cut.
    3. It could imply to guests that you already sent out invitations and are accepting those RSVPs and haven’t sent out theirs yet which would give them the erroneous impression that you B-listed them.

    A Save-the-Date is NOT an invitation, so there really should be no RSVPing involved based on that. The STD alerts the guest that an invitation is to follow and lets them start to prepare and think about travel arrangements and lets them consider your event in light of conflicting events before they need to make decisions.

    I wouldn’t send invitations before 8 weeks because time has shown that 6-8 with a maximum 4 week RSVP date (but 2 or 3 is even better) produces the highest rate of timely responses. You want to send the invitation late enough that the guest will attend to it promptly and not set it aside for later and forget about it because the event is so far off and late enough that an employee can ask for the time off and will remember to do so. My husband, for example, has two jobs, and at neither can he request time off more than a month in advance, so if we got an invitation three months before a wedding, he’s have to remember for 2 months to wait to ask for that time off. And then, if the RSVP date is, say, 6 weeks out, he’d have to gamble on getting the time off or decline just in case. 8 weeks if still within the window for normal airfare, which doesn’t jump to ridiculous rates until about 3 weeks before the travel date and is more than enough time to get a hotel room since most hotels request the block rooms be rented by sometime between 2 weeks and one month before the event.

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