How early to send invitations

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

Did you send out a save the date? If so there’s no reason to send them out that early. I’m sending mine out now for my wedding in June 

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

Hi Bee, I am a Sept bride also ( the 7th) I am sending my invites out in July. I am also a hometown bride. I think it would be totally up to you. I chose to do July because I didn’t want guests to just put the invite aside and forget to either about the invite or rvsp. That kind of made me nervous. I also did a save the date via FB last month just so guests would have a head up. I hope that helps. And congrats. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

You likely won’t get a consensus from the Bee as it seems very dependent on local custom. I am in the UK, sent them out in mid-March for an early September wedding, and had all my responses back by mid-July. My friend is getting married this Sept and is sending hers out at the start of May.

I wouldn’t have changed it – the majority of invitations I get to weddings here arrive at least 4 months in advance, so it was nothing unusual to any of my guests. It gave me loads of time to sort out all the number-dependent admin without stressing. 

To be honest, I’d be pretty pissed to get an invite only 6 weeks ahead, even with a Save-the-date, because that wouldn’t allow me to get very good cheap deals on hotels/travel. 

But from reading the Bee, there are lots of people in different areas who think 6 weeks is plenty. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

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keikochan :  Your rsvp date should be 3 weeks before the wedding. The week after that is when the late ones should come in. 2nd week is when I would reach out to the ones who haven’t sent them back. And the last week is to confirm with your caterer with the exact count. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

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keikochan :  8 to maybe 10 weeks is fine. You sent a STD and I assume your guests are adults who can manage their calendars, budgets and travel planning without a million reminders. If they can’t do that with 9 months’ notice, then your wedding wasn’t a high priority. 

 

As as far as when to contact late reply’s, that would be after your RSVP date. Assuming 9/15 wedding, caterers usually need final headcount about 2 weeks out so your reply date would be about 2.5-3 weeks out from your date so last week of August? And start calling to follow up on people who didn’t reply a day or two after your deadline.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

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keikochan :  You do whatever makes you feel comfortable. You want it to go as smooth as possible without you going crazy lol. 

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