Post # 1
Just got all our invite DIY stuff in the mail! Excited to start putting stuff together! How early would you want to receive an invitation for a destination wedding?
Ours is in California, but in a “destination” none of us live… about 30% of the guests will drive/fly 1-2 hours, and 70% will drive/fly 5-7 hours. We expect 100% of our guests to be getting hotels and at least half to fly in. So it’s not like island-destination, but it’s still going to require everyone to plan and budget and book ahead. Also it will be “high season” and a Saturday night wedding, so all the good hotels are going to be full in advance.
Personally I’m a big planner, I book my flights 2-3 months out from any trip..sometimes as much as 6 months out if prices look good. But I’d expect most people don’t do this… Sooo…when should I send the invite? How early can I ask for RSVPs? STD’s will go out 8 months in advance…but I expect a few people may be getting invitations that didn’t get an STD because we’re planning to invite a few more after we confirm some no’s we’re expecting from elderly familiy members…
Post # 3
Honestly, if it takes that long to drive or fly there I’d asy more than 5 months…
Post # 4
I’m having a Caribbean island destination wedding and 1/2 of my guest list is flying in. Im sening Save-The-Date Cards 8-6 months before the wedding, then sending formal invites 2-3 months before. You can find fairly cheap Save-The-Date Cards online. Hope this helps!
Post # 5
I would send out save the dates as early as possible and follow up with invites 9 months out, it is a lot of planning. We sent our Save-The-Date Cards 12 months out, and Invites 8 months out for a Destination Wedding.
Post # 6
I think the earlier for the invites the better…..although don’t make your RSVP date months in advance. It’s hard for a lot of people to plan that far in advance (my Darling Husband for example) but if at least they know something is going on for that timeframe, they can “pencil” it in on their calendar.
Plus a lot can happen between getting a STD/invite to a wedding 6 months out….DH’s Boyfriend or Best Friend couldn’t come to our Destination Wedding b/c his wife got pregnant 5 months before our wedding. He had pretty much told us that he’d be there (he was gonna be the best man) but by the time they found out (when our invites went out) he changed his mind….which we completely understood.
Post # 7
Since you’re sending out save-the-dates, I think 3 months out is fine.
Post # 8
I’d like at least 6 months, actually. The physical invitation isn’t as important as your informing me that I’m invited in enough advance that I can start making plans. A save the date or even a heartfelt phone call is enough to get me planning and requesting vacay.
Post # 9
I did the same as @Imean: . I am also having a Caribbean destination wedding and sent Save-The-Date Cards out 8 months out and will be sending my invites out this month. People have to put in for time off work and stuff and plan. It’s a good thing, earlier the better
Post # 10
I voted for 5 months. An additional option would be to do “save the dates” 8-12 months in advance. Perhaps this would give your guests more time to save up and plan 🙂
@nyota256, I’m having a caribbean destination wedding, too!
Post # 11
I’m in a similar situation as you – the wedding is where I live, and all my guests (my family and FILs) will be flying in. I sent my Save-The-Date Cards in June for a March wedding, and I will be sending my invitations in mid-January (2 months early). Most of my guests have already booked the hotel and fligths off of the information with the STD, so there’s no need to send an invitation 5 months early.
Post # 12
I did STds 10 months out, invites 4 months out. I found it helpful to send the invites around then as it kicked some butts into gear for booking their trips before all the good flights etc are gone.
Post # 13
I’d send out invites approximately 5-6 months in advance.
Post # 14
I am not a fan of Save-The-Date Cards – but in this case, I think it’s necessary! I’m a planner as well and I wouldn’t book a last-minute Destination Wedding. I would need at least 6 months, especially to see if I could arrange the time around my job (I’m a teacher and just about never take off additional time aside from our vacations).
Post # 15
I am getting married In Mexico. I am sending out std 10 Month in advance. Just because so many of my friends are getting married and I like to give everyone enough time to save up.
Post # 16
I would say 5 months at the very minimum. Depending on your location and the time of year people really need to book things like flights and hotels early on to get the best rates. I am planning to send out my destination wedding save the dates about 1 year out and invitations about 8-9 months out.