Post # 1
I must have the luck of the draw when it comes to my bridesmaids. In a previous post, I talked about how one of my bridesmaids picked out her own dress and shoes at the clearance section of Nordstrom Rack without consulting me or the other bridesmaids. (That was struck down for obvious reasons.)
So anyways, I live clear across the country from where all my bridesmaids are from (and when I’m from orignally). Since I’ll be flying back for the holidays to spend time with family and friends, I thought it would be the perfect time my my bridemaids to pick out their dresses and to at least try them on. I rarely get the chance to fly back that often. Two of them refuse to do it! They insisted that they have to lose weight (ummmm, they’re both size 0-4…and my wedding dress was a 12) and refuse to try on a dress until they’re at their “goal weight.” One of my bridesmaids have been talking about her goal weight since high school and we’re in our 30s. I personally don’t think any of them have to lose any weight, but at this point, my opinion on their weight doesn’t really matter because they all call themselves “fat”.
My question, Hive, is when is the absolute latest I can get my bridesmaids to order their dresses? One of my bridesmaids wanted to get her dress a month before the wedding. I can’t force them all to buy a dress at their current size because they’d rather get fired than to not be in…size 0’s? Is this normal bridesmaid behavior? I’m so confused…and a bit frustrated. I’ve never been a bridesmaid before, but as a bride, I had no problem ordering my size 12 dress and praying to God that I can somehow bring myself down to a size 8 on the big day.
Post # 3
@June14Bride: I’d crosscheck this with whatever Bridesmaid or Best Man dress designer you end up going with, but 4 – 6 months is usually kind of the going time to order Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. Sometimes rush orders can happen, but they would cost more, and would be the cause of way more stress than necessary!
Post # 4
Wow, I’ve never heard of bridesmaids acting like that! I know they can usually alter the dresses a size or so if that helps, but make sure they order way before a month ahead or they will be SOL. Most of my wedding party ordered their dresses about 5-6 months out from the wedding date. One person didn’t order and when I went to do it myself three months from the wedding date the store told me it was too late and I wouldn’t get it in time for the wedding. Now I have to order a different gress. ARG. My advice is do not wait! I agree with PP that it might be a good idea to check with the store you are ordering from and then you can tell them that you are required to order them in that time frame or they aren’t wearing dresses.
Post # 5
You’re kind of at the ideal time to order them right now. If you go somewhere like David’s Bridal they probably could get dresses fast, but you aren’t going to be able to get designer bm dresses in a month. Just tell them they need to order their dresses and can get it altered down to size the month before. They are being ridiculous
Post # 6
The sooner the better in my opinion. It took us 12-16 weeks for my bridesmaid dresses to come in. There were Bill Levkoff and we purchased them from weddingshoppeinc.com because they were WAY cheaper than any bridal stores in my area.
Post # 7
@June14Bride: I didn’t see what my bridesmaids were wearing until the day of my wedding. I think it just comes down to how much you care about what they wear. If you’re really concerned, I would think that getting it done sooner would be better than later.
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
How bloody irritating! Nothing worse than skinny people whining about their weights, and in this context? UNACCEPTABLE!!!!!
I will write them a mean email for you! Just let me know! 🙂
Post # 9
@June14Bride: It depends where you order from, but right now seems like a good time. With my dresses, the deadling was May 1 and the dresses came in late mid October, and my wedding was mid November.