Post # 1
So right now my Fiance and I use condoms and im on the birth control pill. i have really regular periods on it and i have been on it since i was 22, (now 29). No breakthrough bleeding or anything. My obgyn says that the pill has a failure rate of .01% when taken correctly and I do take it the same time every night. I’m panicking because now that we are getting married this saturday, Fiance doesnt want to use condoms anymore. I don’t blame him… but im panicking because we are really really not prepared for a baby now. Hes in the military and will be leaving for 15 months right after the wedding and will only be home a few times in that time frame. I’ll be living with family for those 15 months. We are on the fence about having kids at all, but wouldnt want any surprises, thats for sure! I just need some confidence that the birth control pill is as effective as everyone says. (our honeymoon isn’t onmy fertile days either, so I’m thinking if im fertile maybe we will use condoms during that time.) I dunno… im just freaking out. Help!
Post # 3
You don’t have fertile days on birth control. Birth control prevents pregnancy by stopping ovulation and by thickening the cervical mucus. No ovulation = No fertile days.
I have been on birth control for the last year (I was on it for 3+ years previously) and my husband and I do not use condoms. No accidents, no fears, worries or suspicions.
I think you’ll be okay.
Post # 4
We never use condoms and I’m on the pill. Not even a scare the last 3 years, it’s pretty effective.
Post # 5
Keep in mind that the 0.01% failure rate for oral contraceptives (estrogen-based— failure rates for progestin-only OCP’s are higher) is with PERFECT use. Yes, they’re effective, and I also agree that you’ll probably be fine— BUT– it’s very important to take the pill at the same time each day (within an hour). I’m a pharmacist and I often recommend women set their cell phone alarms to remind them to take the pill regularly. If you get put on antibiotics or another short-term medication, make sure it doesn’t interact with your pill!
Post # 6
As long as you take your pill at the same time every day and don’t miss any you should be fine.
Post # 7
On the topic of antibiotics…. not every antibiotic will affect your birth control, that is a myth.
Post # 8
I have been on bc for 12 years with no accidents. I am now 29 and just got off the bc after the wedding and it feel sooooo weird! But ya you are fine. Stay on bc. He could “pull out” if you were really worried about it.
Post # 9
Switch to the patch (once weekly change) or nuva ring (every 3 months) and you dont really run the risk of “forgetting” and risking it by forgetting by a couple of hours. As a student in college with an unpredictable schedule the pill was terrible.
Post # 10
I’ve been on the pill for 10 years. We don’t use condoms and have never had any scares. As long as you take it at the same time every day, you’ll be fine.
Post # 11
I set my phone alarm for ten pm and take it on the dot every night. Before I met Fiance, (years ago) I missed a pill one night and the next day I got a crampy feeling. I wasnt sexually active then. If I have been taking it on the dot every day at the same time… is that perfect use? I have Viorele… and although its the generic which has been changed a million times, (I used to have microgestin etc), I have been on the same pill since 22 and its a 28 day cycle. Been working perfectly and no side effects.
Post # 12
First and foremost, I have to say this strictly BECAUSE TIMES HAVE CHANGED…
I commend you guys on using condoms so faithfully (especially in light of the fact that YOU ARE ON THE BC PILL NOW)
Condoms, are truly an important element in everyone’s sexual health interest these days… so BRAVO !!
Since Aids became an issue in the mid 1980s… health professionals have done such a good marketing job of promoting condoms that many women (and men too) are under the assumption that they are fool proof
They are not
Infact used alone, they have a long line of possible issues that can cause this first line of defence Birth Control Fail.
On the other hand… the Birth Control Pill is EXTREMELY RELIABLE… and has a very low failure rate.
Lol, infact back in my day, after the Sexual Revolution of the 1960s & 70s… almost no one used Condoms… and most women relied SOLELY on The Pill
So YES it is extremely effective as a first line of defence / stand a lone method of BC (99% effective) when taken correctly… make sure you understand how to do that fully (what to do IF you miss a pill or two). OR that some antibiotics & meds can effect your BCPs so… be aware of that at all times as well.
BUT one must remember, that Condoms are the ONLY current method of BC that provides ANY SORT OF PROTECTION against HIV & Aids (as well as many other types of STIs / STDs) sooo there is a risk involved in letting them go entirely… you really have to be able to trust yourself & your partner to be monagamous and respect those limitations.
Hope this helps,
Post # 13
@nl: I’ve been on the pill for nearly 9 years and have never had a scare. My SO and I have been together nearly 3 years and have never used any other form of birth control and have never had a problem.
I wouldn’t worry, the chances are very VERY VERY slight if you’re taking it correctly. Just keep taking it at the same time as you have been – really the only thing that can affect it is if you get sick and vomit not long after taking it you may throw it up so just take extra precautions in situations like that. Generally though you don’t need to worry 🙂
Post # 14
I’ve been on the pill for 2 1/2 years, take it *mostly* the same time each night (sometimes I’m off by a couple hours…), and my SO and I do not use condoms. No issues 🙂 And as a PP said, he could always pull out if you’re that nervous…
Post # 15
BC piils are very reliable, but they are not perfect. Plenty of women get pregnant on the pill every year, even with so-called perfect use. My FI’s granddaughter is the result of one such pregnancy. If you are absolutely set against having a child right now, look into an IUD or one of the longer-acting forms of hormonal birth control.
ETA: Anecdotes are not evidence; statistics are. Even with a .01% failure rate, that’s 100 pregnancies per million women. The government statistics actually indicate a 5% failure rate. That doesn’t take user error into account, but user error is rarely intentional and not always even recognized.
Post # 16
@This Time Round:
Theres definitely no risk of diseases, and we are monogamous. I was a virgin before him and hes the only man I have been with and with him being in the military he is tested frequently with that. Im really just concerned about the baby. We arent even sure if we want kids, and def not now when our schedules are all over the place. I used made him use condoms because I wanted an extra level of protection before the wedding. I did not want to get pregnant before the wedding. Now im getting married sat and im freaking about the fact he doesnt want to use condoms anymore. He says if it would make me feel better he would use them all the time, but I get that he wants to not use them.