(Closed) How emotionally/mentally invested are/were you in YOUR wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: How invested are you in your wedding?

    VERY invested--I need it to be FABULOUS!

    somewhat invested--it doesn't have to be perfect, and I don't care too much if it isn't

    not invested-- it's just one day of your life!

  • Post # 17
    194 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I wanted everything to be perfect and amazing but the closer I am getting the more I find myself having an “I don’t care” attitude about it.  I hope I have done a good enough planning job that everything just falls into place Saturday….we will see!

    Post # 18
    2965 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I would say I started off the same way you were. I had a vision in my head and it NEEDED to be perfect right down the the last escort card. I wanted to be married in a garden in April and being in the town where we are KNOWN for our roses, I didnt think that would be much of a problem. Yes, there was a problem. I wanted to be wed early April, before it gets too darn hot outside!!! There’s a problem with that. My town has their annual azela trail during this time and I couldnt get near anywhere that was happening. So I decided to try an out of town wedding with the same atmosphere. Out of Town wedding planning was too stressful. It made me really sit and think about my priorities. Then I started thinking about everything Ive read to save money and I thought what kind of wedding would my alter ego plan? (HINT: I posted a board about this) I ended up planning my alter egos wedding but there were some things I was refusing to let go of (my outdoor wedding and my photo booth and GREAT food!!!) so I kept them and I’m trying to work around it. In the end, its still going to be a very special and beautiful moment because I’m marrying the love of my life and my very close friends and family will also be there to share that moment with me. I cant wait!!! 

    Post # 19
    1933 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Let’s just say….I am diagnosed with extreme OCD.  And it’s not just about wedding planning.  So….unfortuntely, I’m very invested in it.  I honestly wish I wasn’t and we had eloped (which is what I wanted!), but that isn’t the case.  At least I’m not a bitch about it 🙂

    Post # 20
    2413 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I’m vested in my wedding. I really have a vision of what I want and I strive for that…buuuttt….I don’t spend every waking hour planning it or obsessing over it and I expect there will be certain things that don’t go my way…oh well…

    Post # 21
    6014 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I started out all ramped up for it.  Tthan DH and I talked and decided the biggest concern was that the people that weI loved the most would be able to come and that we had a great time dancing and just visiting. So i let alot of things go and it was less stressful for both of us.   A few things went screwy but it was a great time.

    Post # 22
    242 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I require fabulousness….but that’s my over the top personality at work 🙂

    Post # 23
    625 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’ve become very wrapped up in the whole thing… But I haven’t become too Bridezilla-y because I’ve been enjoying it. I definitely have a vision and I will search and search and search and search until I find what I want. I think it all started because the first thing I picked out was my dress and it was a bit of a rushed decision… I’ve spent alot of time battling with buyers remorse… So the other details that I feel I’ve gotten spot on makes me feel better about the first “mistake.” Plus, I love the idea that people will walk away KNOWING that it was our wedding… it’s just got too many quirky touches to be anyone elses.

    I’m actually so wrapped up in planning that I’m at a loss what I’ll do after the wedding happens… I’m afraid I’ll just kinda sit there and say “What Now?” 

    Post # 24
    1474 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @rivendeler I understand what you are saying and there is nothing wrong with that.

    @lovebirdsc Congrats and Enjoy!

    As for me, im pretty invested in it.  I have a specific vision, that I would love to see play out, I dont expect it to be PERFECT, most things never are, BUT my whole life I havent done a whole lot of special things for myself or spent a ton of money on big parties, fancy vacations, extravagances etc. and so I really feel like this is the one time that I would like enjoy something for real and DO IT BIG! Wink

    So here’s hopin’

    Post # 25
    5154 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2010

    Not very. My husband actually did pretty much all of the planning, and even that was pretty easygoing for him. Well, I WAS in charge of the flowers (and my dress), and I basically told the florist to pick something with orange colours, and even so the flowers got messed up (as in not delivered at all!) so all I ended up with was a bouquet (with orange flowers in it!) and nothing else! Ha ha. So much for me planning!

    We did not have a full reception, a cake, a DJ, table favours, a wedding party, monogrammed napkins, special linens, signature drinks, fancy invites, photo booths, candy bars, or whatever is the thing to do these days or that apparently are common wedding details (including apparently, flowers!).

    I have never been into “wedding details”. Ever. And I sure was not for my own wedding either. I had no interest in bridal magazines, picking “theme colours”, picking invitation font and cardstock, and none of that. I was quite happy just showing up, as long as he and I showed up, and we had the officiant, we were golden in my opinion.

    We ended up having a very laid back, somewhat different, definitely not perfect, quirky and unstressful “weekend destination” wedding where we exchanged some very meaningful vows. I was very emotionally invested into the relationship and the marriage that the ceremony signified, but the rest to me was just details, and many of them not details I cared to worry about. No regrets at all.



    Post # 26
    658 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I was really into my wedding because I was just so excited about it. It was stressfull planning for it though from another state. I wasn’t that bride though who only talked about the wedding. If someone brought it up, I’d talk about it to them. We only had close family joining us. We got married on the beach, a place we both love. I love making crafts so doing all that stuff was fun to me. I think if we had more guests present it would of been more stressfull. The big wedding just wasn’t for us.

    Post # 27
    493 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Not invested at all which is probably why it was such a disaster, lol.  I don’t care though- a lot of people still had fun, including my husband and myself.  

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