Post # 1
Destination Wedding brides, how far ahead of your wedding did you or are you planning on putting your RSVP by date? How far ahead is too much? We need a pretty good lead time to figure out some of the logistics, but I don’t know how far is okay and what is unreasonable. Thanks!
Post # 3
@MadameTussaud: So we sent out a STD 11 months in advance for the Out of Town guest. We just moved to the southwest coast from the southeast and people are pretty much calling our wedding a Destination Wedding. So we gave them the most amount of time possible to get everything together and try to make it. Even with 11 months ahead of time people still can’t make it. So really send out whenever you like, more time is best.
Post # 4
We sent our Save-The-Date Cards out 11 months ahead, too, but I’m wondering about sending out and getting back the RSVPs so I have a definite number to work with. Right now, everyone is super 50/50 on it so I have absolutely no idea how many might make it.
Post # 5
I updated our wedding website in November for July 2012, and sent out invites in Jan with a firm RSVP date of March 30th. To be honest, I think we could have sent them earlier as people were already asking and looking at flights.
Post # 6
we put our RSVP date 30 days out which worked well. we sent out save the dstes 9 months in advance.
Post # 7
Generally for Destination Wedding guests will have already made their travel arrangements long before the invitations arrive and RSVP date. The STD (6-12 months in advance) usually gets them thinking about that.
I’d make a wedding website that also recommends when to start booking/looking at hotels/flights.
Invites still go out 8 weeks prior.
RSVP would be dependending on your caterer and when they need a head count. I’d take the caterer’s deadline, and add two weeks to that to weeks to that. So inreality, they have the invitation in hand for 4 weeks before they RSVP.
Post # 8
We put our RSVP date 60 days before the wedding. Pretty much everyone booked and RSVP’d by that date. I thought that might be a little too much, but I knew the cost of the resort would go up, as well as flights (holiday weekend) and I also knew there were several who did not have passports and did not know if they would be able to afford to go. I figured if they didnt know by 2 months before, then they probably weren’t going.
Post # 9
As mine is a Destination Wedding with a flight time of around 8 – 12 hours for people to attend I am sending out Save the dates 12 months out, & then telling people the website URL about 9 months out. I will send out invites about 6 months out as I want people to RSVP 4 months out so I can confirm as my resort etc told me everything needs to be confirmed & paid for 2 months out. phew….well thats the plan anyway.
Post # 10
We announced that it would be a Destination Wedding in Rome 18 months before the wedding, sent out STD’s 10 months before the wedding, and are sending invites 2.5 months before the wedding with RSVPs 1 month before the wedding. But our wedding is so small that we already know who is coming… the RSVPs are more of a formality.
Post # 11
@traveller: Wow, you’re on a definite timeline there! Do you have a pretty good idea of who is attending, or no?
Post # 12
Our 1st RSVP date was like 4 months out so we could then invite the second batch of guests based on the returns.
Post # 13
@MadameTussaud: lol, yes hopefully my timeline will go to plan. I dont know definitely who is coming apart from my immediate family and a few close friends. Some people are aware we are having one in Thailand but not exact dates/location yet. I have the save the dates ready but they havent been written yet. We will do them this weekend & send out.
Post # 14
We sent out our STD’s as soon as our sail dates opened up for booking–that was 15 months before the wedding (September 2011). We wanted them to be able to save a bit and plan for flights or trains–especially with the Inauguration happening the weekend our cruise returns. We didn’t have a B list.
Post # 15
For all weddings invites are to go out no earlier then 10 weeks before the event. However, you can send people Save-The-Date Cards much earlier then that if you want them to start planning an arranging.
It is not polite to expect your guests to know their schedule greater then 10 weeks in advance.
Post # 16
We sent our Save-The-Date Cards 10 months out. Sent the invitations 6 months out. Our RSVP deadline is for 10 weeks from the wedding day. The reason for this is because this the date that the rooms have to be booked and paid for in full by. This is also the last day we cna hold on to any rooms on the room block (we have to release them after this day or pay for them). Anyone who wants to book after the fact can do so at the going rate. It may be rude to do this but most people in our circle usually book their trips 3-5 months in advance so for our group it wasn’t unreasonable to request the same.