Post # 1
Darling Husband and I really want to move. He wants to move to a city about 3 hrs away which isn’t too far away. There is another city he is interested in that would be better financially but it is about 8 hrs away from our family. I don’t know if I could move that far from my family. I don’t really rely on them but I love seeing my grandma a few times a month. It also scares me that if there is an emergency, I wouldn’t make it in time. So bees, how far do you live from your family and how does it effect you? For those who live far, do you like it? Do you miss them? Would you ever move closer?
Post # 3
i live 3 hours from my family. We live close to his family though, 20 minutes. I miss my home town and being close to my family but i feel secure, safe and i fit right in with his family.
Post # 4
3 hr Flight. I like it. I miss my family but we see eachother 4-5 times a year. We’ve talked about moving closer but the job opportunities aren’t really there. I do think it’ll suck when we have kids.
A few years ago my uncle died suddenly and I couldn’t make it home in time. That was really rough.
Post # 5
I live in the city and my family lives in the suburbs, about an hour’s drive away. I wouldn’t want to be any farther. We are planning to move closer to my family, actually, as soon as Fiance gets a job in the suburbs.
Post # 6
We live six hours driving from my family and a two hour ferry from his. I’d love to live closer but I have some extended family within 3items items that we spend aa lot of time with instead.
Post # 7
Currently I live an 11hr + plane flight away (and in another country). My family is in CA and we are in the UK.
I’ve lived on the opposite coast from my family since I started college in 2002. So I’m used to being a long plane ride away.
I was living in NYC when my grandmother in CA passed away, and I will say it was very hard for me not to be close. Although she did go so quickly that unless I had lived in northern CA near her (rather than in So CA with my family) it really wouldn’t have made any difference. Thankfully a phone call can make a lot of distances seem much smaller.
Post # 8
We live about 25 minutes from my family, (same city) and about 55 minutes from DH’s family, (next county over). I wouldn’t want to be too far from my family. I like knowing that if I need them or they need me, I could be over there in just a few minutes. We’re really close.
Post # 9
Dad – 10 min
Mom – 6.5 hours
Brother – how far is it from NE to GA – far
We talk all the time. I miss my mom alot but I talk to her on the phone at least twice a day. It was a bit of an issue when she got sick, thank God she has my college son living with her right now or she would have died. I was there in 6 hours to handle anything from there. Brother is in the military, when he had cancer the military took care of him by bringing us to where he was at, so not an issue. I hardly remember what it was like for us all to live in the same state, but then again, we prob never will all be in the same state again. I can tell you that it makes us really appreciate the times that we are all together and we make every moment count.
Post # 10
I live about 1.5 hours away from my family; FI’s family is about 20 minutes away.
Post # 11
4 hour plane ride. My family lives in MA, and I live in FL.
Post # 12
2,300 miles…we live near Seattle, they all live in Indiana.
Post # 13
I also worry about this!! The farther away I’ve lived from my family is about 1.5 hours while I was in college. Fiance has applied to med schools in other states (~3 hour drives) or in a town in NC 1.5 hours away (same town I went to undergrad in). It makes me sad to think of leaving the area I grew up in, and living far away from my fam. When he is in his residency years, we’ll have even less of a choice about where we move (residency matches could send us to the opposite side of the country, depending on the speciality he chooses). I get even more sad to think that when we move to a new city, he’ll be busy with med school or residency and I’ll have to fend for myself more or less regarding a social life. We’ve already discussed that we would NOT have a child in his residency years, and one of the reasons being that he would be very busy and I wouldn’t want to be trying to navigate a newborn without the support of my mom and other family nearby. I worry about emergencies and being far away from everyone and everything we know.
On the flip side, I know that moving away from familiarity will make me a stronger person, forcing me to fend for myself while supporing my doctor-to-be husband. Having nearly all of my free time be my own (meaning Fiance will be really busy with school, exams, or residency work) will force me to put myself out there and I’d likely develop an independence I wouldn’t have otherwise.
Luckily, we agree on the fact that we ultimately want to come back to our hometown to settle permanently, so I really am only looking at anywhere from 4-8 years of living elsewhere. Still, it makes me worry about loneliness and feeling isolated!
Post # 14
7.5-8 hours away. I’m in New York, family is in Ohio and that’s the way I like it 🙂 I miss seeing them, but it’s best for me and them if visits are few.
Post # 15
We just moved and are now a two hour plane ride away (or a day long drive if we wanted). I wish we were about a four to six hour drive. That being said, we love where we live now which is why we’re torn about the future. We both decided we don’t want to live within an hour because everyone drives us crazy. I’m not pregnant and while it’d be nice to have people nearby (especially later if we need a babysitter), we’re fine with being this far. We know that it’ll cause less issues with people being overbearing and we’d still see them a few times a year.
Post # 16
We live about 2.5 hours from my family, and about 10 minutes from his. Our first year of our relationship though- we lived 10 minutes from mine and 2.5 hours from his. He was teaching down by where I was born and raised, then got laid off and got a job in the district he was born and raised in 🙂