Post # 1
A chinese girl at work was expecting me to invite everyone at work to my wedding. When I said I was only inviting 1 person (we are friends outside of work) she was quite surprised and said in China you would always invite your work collegues. When I said I wasn’t inviting the boss she was positively scadalised! I also have a brazillian friend who said he has attended countless weddings where he didnt even know the bride and groom because the invitations are so widely spread.
We are only inviting close friends and family. Close friends as in, we have to talk and/or catch up on a regular basis. No collegues, (except for 1 mentioned before) no bosses, no aqaintances. Of course if our budget was higher we wouldnt probably invite heaps of people!
So how far do your invitations go? Do you have a big guest list because of cultural reasons or you have a bigger budget or because you want to invite all your friends including their partners? Or do you prefer a smaller, more intimate wedding?
(Just as a side note, I would consider a big wedding to be over 130 guests, small wedding about 50 guests)
Post # 3
I have to invite my family all of them even if they don’t come, its a culture thing and on my moms side its a assurance so no one goes, well I wasn’t invited sort of thing. Thats something like 150ish people barely counting all the children. Then I am inviting close friends, or people who invited me to their weddings. We have enough space for everyone so if they all come so be it.
Post # 4
My wedding is going to be very small, we have 70 guests on the list and I’m not expecting everyone to be able to attend as it’s a destination wedding. I’m not inviting anyone from work primarily because I started working there after I became engaged and haven’t actually known my colleagues all that long. I discuss things to do with the wedding with my colleagues all the time and none of them have hinted that they expect to be invited which is good. All the guests are either family or close friends and even some of them are only being invited out of courtesy (like my cousins who I only ever see at Christmas).
I would love to have a huge wedding and just invite absolutely everyone I know but our budget unfortunately doesn’t permit that so we’ve had to be quite brutal with our guest list.
Post # 5
I’m having a very intimate wedding, so it’s only family and very close friends (most are 10+ year friendships and family friends).
If I wasn’t, they’d be extended to some of my former “students” (I was a TA), extended family, friends from high school, etc.
Post # 6
Fi has a big HUGE family and we didn’t invite everyone because then we’d really go into debt. His side makes up something like 95% (family and friends) of the guest list, my 5% is my family that can come and some local friends.
I invited some of my mom friends that Ive known now for 3 years. We got closer this year and I wanted to invte them. 1 girl just joined our group and she wanted to come to the wedding and was so excited for the shower I just had to invite her. Another is someone I just got sort of close to this year as well. Not counting those 7 girls, everyone else on the list is either close family members or friends we’ve known for 7 plus years and more.
Post # 7
I have a big family, but I’m closer to my mom’s side. Most of them are invited; however I didn’t invite most of my dad’s side because I barely talk to them. My mom had some words to say about that, but I don’t care….lol. I invited some co-workers, the one that I talk to outside of work. I wouldn’t invite all of your co-workers if you just talk to them at work.
Post # 8
We’re having two very small weddings (due to religious and legal/immigration reasons). The first will have about 30, the second about 50. Both the overlap (people attending both) is only 2 people, other than ourselves. I would like to invite only 30 to each, because I have family members I’m inviting that I don’t like… but to avoid drama and keep the peace, they’re getting an invite. I prefer small and intimate. I don’t want anyone I don’t like or don’t know there.