Post # 1
With the holiday season upon us, it’s gotten me thinking about the long trip it will be to see our families for Christmas. Both live at least a 10-hour drive away, and I sure do wish they were closer. In the long run we are hoping my husband will be able to get a job in a city closer to where they are.
How far away do your families live? Do you like how close or far they are? What do you consider the optimum distance to live from them? Does proximity to family influence your decision on where to live?
To keep the comparisons between like things, the poll is written in terms of driving time, even though some people might fly rather than drive 6 hours in the car.
Post # 3
All of my immediate and most of my extended family live within a 12 block radius of me. My parents actually live across the street, as to both my grandmothers. It can be fun but it can also be annoying!
Post # 4
If it makes you feel any better, I’m a 12 hour flight away from my parents and my fiance. Both of our parents are in Hawaii, he’s in Seattle, and I’m in Beijing. What makes it worse is that it’s an 18 hour time change difference between Beijing and Hawaii. Thank goodness for skype!
Post # 5
My husband’s parents live 10 minutes from us. It’s nice because we can go out to dinner together, get our Christmas trees together, or whatever. My family lives about 9 hours away by car. It’s tough because we don’t get to see them very often.
Post # 6
Both my family and my fiance’s family live 3,000 miles from us. The good thing is that they live less than an hour drive from each other, so we can go home and visit everyone in the same trip. We generally fly home for at least a week twice a year – we’re really attached to our families and love visiting them, so we’re happy to spend our vacations that way, but it is costing us the chance to travel anywhere else.
My fiance is in a PhD program and probably has about 3 years left. We’re both getting pretty attached to the Bay Area, but I suspect that we will end up going back to New York when we’re done so that we can be closer to both our families. My parents might move full time to Florida around then, but I guess at least that’s a shorter flight (and an easy way to get out of the cold for a long winter weekend).
Post # 7
FI’s mom lives a 5 minute walk from us, which is too close. LOL. The rest of our immediate family is within 30 minutes or so. It’s quite nice.
Post # 8
My family are 3000 miles away – they’re in CT and I’m in Ireland. NOT fun.
My in-laws are about 4 minutes’ drive away. Luckily we get along!!!
Post # 9
We currently live with my family while we grown our savings (immigration and overseas relationships aren’t easy on the wallet). My husband is 6k miles from his family. 🙁
Post # 10
My Mom/Extended family: 18 hour drive/1.5 hour flight + 2 hour ferry
My Dad/Extended family: opposite coast/6 hour flight
FI’s Mom/Extended family: 8.5 hour drive/ 45 min flight
FI’s Dad/Extended family: 6 hour drive
Post # 11
Both of our families live about 5 hours from us; mine are west of us, his are south of us.
Post # 12
My FI’s parents live about 15-20 minutes away by car, so we can see them quite a bit. My Mom, Step-dad, and three youngest siblings live about 14 hours away by car, my Dad lives in Louisiana (which would be too far for us to drive), and my other sister lives in Napa, CA and would be way too far to drive!
My family all moved away this summer, so this will be the first time that we will be travelling for the holidays. We will be going to NC for Christmas to spend it with my family.
Post # 13
My family is a 16 hour drive away from us (we drove to and from the wedding but we’ll always fly for any other trip). DH’s family is a 13 hour drive away from us. And both families are a 12 hour drive away from each other.
Honestly, at this point in our lives, I really don’t mind. Once we have kids, I’d like to be closer to family so that they can see their grandparents more but since I went 12 hours away from home for college, I’m used to being long distance from my family.
And for me, about a 6 hour drive is the max I’d do very often without just getting plane tickets.
Post # 14
My family lives on the other side of the country, my FI’s family lives less than a mile away.
Post # 15
This is certainly a frequent topic during the holiday season. Last year we were engaged and couldn’t decide what to do, so we each went to our own family’s house for Christmas. This year we’re married and it was important for us to be together. We spent thanksgiving at my in law’s (3 hr drive), and we’ll be doing Christmas at my parents’ house (12 hr drive). It’s certainly hard, and visiting my family takes much more planning since it’s either a long car ride or an expensive flight and boarding for our 2 dogs.
Post # 16
my family lives 1-2 hours by car (they live almost exactly 2 hrs north of us)
his family lives 3-4 hours by car (FI’s dad/step mom live about 3ish hours by car)
his family lives 7-12 hours by car (FI’s mom/step dad live about 10-12 hrs away depending on traffic… but really we would never drive to see them we just fly when we want to go)