(Closed) How far have you planned (with and with out your SO) pre engagement?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Hi Em welcome to the boards!

I haven’t really planned anything for the wedding, but SO has recently given me full blessing (and a good nudge) to start it, even though we are not engaged yet.

This looks like fun though!

With my SO:

  • Engagement ring is chosen (together) and a deposit was put on it (while I was there with him in the store)
  • Decided what kind of wedding we want (Church/then quaint village hall reception)
  • Later on in the day service, then straight on to the reception, rather than a whole day
  • Decided roughly how many guests we want (about 100 ish)
  • Keep costs down by having a buffet or easy to do meal courses, like a soup for starter, pig roast for main
  • Who will make the cake (his friend)
  • Who will be our bridesmaids/best men
  • Where he will have his stag do (he wants to do a cycling tour!)
  • We have already decided his kit car will be the wedding car
  • Where to get the flowers from (his friends a florist)
  • Who to go to for catering (his parents neighbour)
  • We want a live band (another friend of his)

Without my SO:

  • Colours are chosen
  • What style of dress I would like to look at/try on when the time comes
  • Ideas for bridesmaid dresses
  • The budget (I think SO thinks it will be 4x as much as I think I can plan it all for!)

So thats me! Hopefully I can full on start planning soon!

Post # 5
2892 posts
Sugar bee

With him:

 – Custom ring was a fail, waiting for quote from new jeweler we went to visit. Going to see the ring again on Wednesday and get our quote on Friday (fingers crossed).

 – Almost decided on our wedding bands.

 – Picked a month, told the parents

 – We’re probably going to have a reception at a restaurant. We aren’t big on the traditional “flair” of weddings.


That’s about it. I haven’t done anything on my own. He’s the one with all the work connections that will be able to hook us up when the time comes so I’m not worrying about planning till I have to. And even then, he’ll probably be doing his fair share because of his connections.

Post # 6
339 posts
Helper bee

My SO and I have talked about getting engaged/married and I have already declared our first dance song.  He knows I have tried some rings on and he tried to get me to go with him (that’s another story) but he doesn’t know what I want yet. Unless he has found my secret folder Laughing


What he doesn’t know is..that I tried on my dream dress maybe a month or so ago and actually purchased a preowned one off ebay today (I know I’m terrible), but it was $900 (retail about 1800 without a bustle) and the exact size I wanted.  The worst that could happen is that I have to resell it.  I have semi researched venues and reception favors and such.  Nothing too definite since we kinda need to have a date. 

Post # 7
304 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Hehe good topic!

My SO is in the army and has been away for a few months. I’m like 90% sure a proposal is coming when he gets home… finger’s crossed!!

We have both planned that we will get married out of town, but that’s about the extent of it.

Me, of course, I have planned the exact venue, my dress, decorations, bridesmaids already know who they are, have a family friend who is a florist who has already offered to do our flowers… hehe. I feel so cheeky. SO is going to be so amused when he proposes and then realises his wedding is pretty much already planned!



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