(Closed) How far in advance do I send out Save the Dates and Invites

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
9913 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would send your STDs 10-12 months out since it involves significant travel. 

Invitations should be sent 6-8 weeks out.  Presumably, most of the people attending would have already made travel arrangements based on the STD.

Post # 4
2152 posts
Buzzing bee

@abbie017:  +1.

OP do not fall into the trap of sending invites months ahead of time, under the guise of destination wedding.  Guests will make travel plans based on the STD, and presumably these people will be people you speak to on a very regular basis, if they are willing to fly to Thailand for your wedding.

Post # 5
306 posts
Helper bee

Send the STD’s as soon as you can, it’s never to early to give a heads up for travel.  Since Australia’s in the southern hemisphere, don’t they have different summer vacation times?  I know when I was sending out STD’s, I sent them when most people would be planning their summer vacations so that they could plan accordingly, which was around December U.S. time.  

If you do STD’s, invitations can go out 2 months ahead of the wedding.

Post # 6
7550 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

@LaurenKK:  yeah our summer is December-February

send Save the Dates out as soon as possible and invites a month or two before the wedding

Post # 7
639 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

If you are getting married in more than a year from now (it looks like you’re getting married in 2014?) don’t send the STDs out right AWAY, I honestly think that a year and a half is a little too long for a lot of people to plan their travel. 6 to 10 months seems more reasonable.  But you can still let your close friends and family know about your wedding date, if they will need to budget between now and then to save money for the trip.

Have you picked a venue yet? You should find out when they need the final headcount for catering, that should drive when you mail out your invitations. Our venue needs our final number a month before the wedding, so we’re mailing our invitations 3 months in advance, and the RSVP deadline is a month in a half in advance – so that leaves us 2 extra weeks to call people who didn’t respond with RSVPs. (I have heard many many times that that is a huge problem and it is a pain in the butt to round up RSVPs at the last minute!) Mailing out invitations 6 weeks in advance may be cutting it too close, depending on when you need your headcount.

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