(Closed) How far in advance do you ask about being flower girls/ring bearers?

posted 9 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
9919 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

We asked quite a bit in advance, but it’s only because we wanted to ask in person and we didn’t know when we’d see them again.  We asked the parents first, and then asked our Flower Girl.  Her mother paid for the dress, but she actually found it, and sent it to me to see what I thought, and when I said I liked it, she asked if she could buy it right then because she found a good price. 

If you can afford it, it’s nice to offer.  The parents may still pay for it, but the gesture is nice.  Just make sure you can afford it before you tell them you’ll cover it! 🙂

Post # 5
982 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We already asked our ring bearers’ parents, who are both in the wedding party, but we aren’t telling the boys until much closer to the date. They are only 5 so we know they will ask us about it everytime we see them for the next year. We figured we would tell them about it next summer.

Post # 6
1099 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

  Our ringbearer was actually the first one I asked to be in our wedding…LoL. He is my cousin’s son (I’m close with my cousin), and the way I told her was, “Hey, what size tux does Gomer wear?” (Obviously, not my ringbearer’s real name!). This had already been discussed in the planning days.

  With our flower girl, we asked about a year out (we had nearly a two year engagement). With her, I found a few dresses that I really liked (my favorite actually happened to be $40), sent pictures to the flower girl’s mom, and she chose from there. This way, they had some control over the budget. To make things a little more even, we did cover half the cost of the ringbearer’s tux.

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