(Closed) How far in advance is too far?

posted 10 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
1813 posts
Buzzing bee

mine was more like a month or 2 in advance, but we only had a 6 mo engagement…I don’t think it’s too early, but if you are going to change your mind, you may not want to take your officiant through alllll the iterations with you…maybe have them get you started then meet with him/her a month before the wedding and right before the wedding

Post # 4
813 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I think you should get as much done now as you possibly can. I’m 2 months out and starting to freak out a little because I have so much left to do. Planning the ceremony is one of those things!

So I would go ahead and put some time into it, research things, perhaps pick a few readings, and set up an outline. Then, you can put it away for a few months. When you really need to fine tune it a few months before your wedding, you’ll pull it out and most of it will be done. You can always go back in and revise things if you need to, but a majority of the hard work will be done! 🙂 

Post # 6
1091 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Oakland Manor

Well, your vows are personal, so I’m sure thats the one part of the ceremony you can easily change closer to the day of. I think it’s great to work on your ceremony in advance 🙂

Post # 7
2434 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

You can start working on it now, but maybe be prepared for it to change as the big day nears. 

As for the vows- my husband and I chose traditional ones, but opted to recite them after the priest.  While it did interrupt the flow a little, I was so nervous that I would have messed up even the "in sickness and in health" type vows.

So if you opt to recite them back after the officiant, you don’t have to worry about memorization!

Post # 9
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I say go for it. The more you get done in advance the better off you’ll be and you will have every opportunity to create the ceremony you’ve always wanted. I don’t think it’s too far in advance. I went to an amazing wedding that all came down to the ceremony. Their officiant worked/planned with them for an entire year before the ceremony so that she could get to know them and see them grow as a couple. The ceremony was moving and amazing. We were blown away. Tears of happiness were all over the joint. They also had a dance performed by a friend, a traditional Indian dance that is done to seal the vows. An in that case, needed some planning in advance. So, whatever you decide, I still believe that starting now is not too early! Have fun with the planning and good luck!!!

Post # 11
796 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

Why not do it now? For the basic things, it’s as easy to pick it out now as it would be 8 months from now so just get it over with. I wrote mine a loooong time ago and frankly I’m glad it’s not something I have to think about now.


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