Post # 1
Let me start by saying that I’m not catholic, my fiance is. So we’re getting married in a catholic church, and we’ve been through all of our “pre-cana” stuff… focus test, sponsor couple stuff, “catholic information” & NFP stuff, and a communication weekend. However, our wedding is less than 3 months away & I have NO CLUE what is actually going to happen at our ceremony. I don’t know what we’re supposed to do, what’s allowed & what’s not allowed, what we are required to do or say… I feel really in the dark. There are a few things that I feel like they might want us to do, that I don’t really want to do (like make everyone sing songs) that I’m not sure if they will say we HAVE to do. It’s making me nervous. I think we need to set up a meeting with someone (the priest?) there to figure out what we’re doing, but I’m not sure of the appropriate time to do this & we’re currently waiting for FI’s baptisim certificate to be mailed to us. We still have to get “approval” to get married (I’m baptised methodist) from whoever gives approval for these things.
Ahhhh, can you tell it’s making me crazy? I don’t want to do all this stuff too early, but I don’t want to do it too late either obviously. Will the church tell us when we need to come in? I think we have to meet with the music person too (I have LOTS of questions about music too!) I feel like… it’s OUR wedding & I have no idea what’s going to happen & I feel like I have no control 🙁 Sad & nervous! Tell me it’s going to be ok! 🙂
Post # 3
i feel you on this. we are 3 months away too and i have very little information. i got a book from our engagement encounter that had all the information in it for planning the wedding. what songs are allowed and that kind of stuff.
we finally got a handout that had rules specifically for the church, no fake flowers, no rice so we finally had something to build on.
you will probably want to call the parish and see if they have rules for you. cause trust me there will be some. someone in the administrative office should be able to help you with that. you just need to track someone down who has that information. do you have another couple you know that has gotten married there? i think your best bet would be to call the office and see what they have for you. someone there has to have something about what is and isnt allowed.
Post # 4
Definitely make an appointment with the priest or deacon. They will explain what is expected from you. Our parish has a booklet for engaged couples that gives recommendations, tells you what you need to take care of, and what you are not allowed to do (e.g. throw flower petals in the church or rice outside).
All WE have to take care of is to show up to the rehearsal dinner with the spreadsheet filled out that they gave us, pick readings and a psalm, decide how we are going to say the vows, pick the music, and not be late for the wedding.
Post # 5
We got a booklet and just had to circle what we wanted for each category.
Post # 6
Probably similar or the same as PPs, this is the booklet we got from our parish priest, almost 100 pages and you just go through and make choices for each part of mass…