(Closed) How far in advanced did you send STDs

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: how much earlier before?
    1 year before : (4 votes)
    9 %
    8 months before : (25 votes)
    56 %
    6 months before : (11 votes)
    24 %
    5 months before : (1 votes)
    2 %
    4 months before : (0 votes)
    3 months before : (1 votes)
    2 %
    2 months before : (0 votes)
    1 month before : (0 votes)
    other : (3 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    604 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    We sent ours about 5.5 months before the wedding.  It seemed to be enough time for everyone.

    Post # 4
    4495 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    A year, but every single one of our guests had to travel from out of state and we were getting married on a weekday so I felt the need to give everyone extra time to request off of work and make travel arrangements.

    Post # 5
    1319 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - NH

    I’m sending mine out the first week of Dec for our May wedding.  They’ll double as Xmas cards

    Post # 6
    409 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I said other, as we got excited and sent ours out 2 years in advance! 

    Post # 7
    9952 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Etiquette Snob here… lol

    Save The Dates are usually sent out either when you Get Engaged or up to a Year out from the Wedding Date.

    Most Brides do them between 6 months & a year before the Wedding.

    Plan on a LONGER Lead Time… IF you are inviting a lot of Guests from afar (especially overseas) – You are choosing a Popular City or Destination to have your Wedding in – or a Holiday Timeframe (including say a Long Weekend)

    Then I’d opt for the 9 to 12 month timeframe for sending them out.

    Here then is some more info about Save-The-Date Cards and how to get them to work for you that I just provided for another Bee:

    == cut & paste ==

    Save-The-Date Cards are fairly new on the Wedding scene.. they were dreamed up by the  “Wedding Industry Complex” (or conspiracy, depending on how you look at it) so  that Wedding Stationery Companies could make more money (not to mention  Photographers who now do EPhoto Sessions)

    The STD has replaced the once Engagement Announcement that would appear in  the Local Newspaper’s Social Pages prior to the Wedding

    In reality, an STD is nothing more than a “personalized hand-bill / flyer”  that announces an upcoming event

    Nothing more… nothing less

    Where it gets tricky from an Etiquette POV socially is that they also include  the words “Save The Date” which IMPLIES you are telling them not just of your  recent Engagement but also that you INTEND to invite them to the Wedding

    (Whereas the good old Newspaper Engagement Announcement just announced GOOD  NEWS didn’t imply that anyone reading it was going to be Invited)

    Where Brides run into issues therefore with Save-The-Date Cards (and in reality, also when  they announce their Engagements on Social Networking Sites) is because it is  going out to Friends & Family they assume they are all invited.

    So you better get the info right… cause it would be seen to be RUDE to do  this, and then not invite these “friends” you’ve told

    So BEFORE anyone prints & sends out an STD they should make sure they  have 100% worked out the following details:

    1. The Date
    2. The Wedding Budget
    3. The Guest List
    4. The Venue

    In so much as The Date & Venue, should be available, and that The Budget & Venue should be able to accommodate the Guest List.

    Too many Brides2B newly engaged and excited have sent out Save-The-Date Cards, only to  discover that they didn’t work thru the bigger picture… and later on down the  road find out that Their Venue doesn’t accommodate as many as they thought it  would… or that due to costs their Guest List is too GRAND for what they can  truly afford.

    Not a good thing.  As their is no “appropriate” way to rescind either a  STD or an Invite without a loss of face.

    == end ==

    Lots to think about…

    Hope this helps,


    Post # 8
    2610 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

    We sent ours out at about 9 months before the wedding. But almost everyone is coming in from out of town. Not everyone is traveling that far – most are in the same state but we had a lot of people asking for information so we decided to just send them early. Worked out well since our hotel block is already booking up fast.

    Post # 9
    297 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    We sent them out 9 months in advance, but we’re having an out-of-state wedding.

    Post # 10
    957 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    We did ours 10 months before because it is mostly Out of Town guests and a holiday weekend. I think 8 is standard, though.

    Post # 11
    521 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Ours are going out TODAY!!  (Wahoo!)  This will be 5.5 months before the big day.

    Post # 12
    1531 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    We sent ours out in mid november for our end of may wedding – so 6 months.  All the important out of state and out of country people knew the date as soon as we booked the venue (about 11 months before).

    I got one in the mail that was sent way too early – the wedding is in august…i got the save the date 10 months before…and its a local wedding and most guests are local.

    Post # 13
    4062 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    we did 10 months but it was a Destination Wedding

    Post # 14
    20 posts
    • Wedding: July 2014

    6 months and we are having international guests. They already know the date so i don’t see the point of up to a year in advance.

    Post # 15
    1282 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    We sent ours out 11 months before, but it was a destination wedding

    Post # 16
    1284 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I actually sent mine 10 months before …. I voted 8 because it was closer to 9 months before.  lol.

    I THOUGHT it was a holiday weekend … turns out, it isn’t.  Go figure.  Of course that would happen to me.  Lmao.  But hey at least we were quoted lower rates from vendors than we initially were planning for!

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