(Closed) How far is too far?

posted 8 years ago in Reception
  • poll: How far is too far?
    A 30-minute drive is my limit. : (9 votes)
    15 %
    Just keep it under an hour. : (12 votes)
    19 %
    An hour and a half drive is reasonable. : (27 votes)
    44 %
    What's a few hours? Road trip please! : (14 votes)
    23 %
  • Post # 3
    1801 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    If a lot of your guests are from out of town anyhow then I don’t think it’s such a big deal.  Our venues were 35 minutes from where most of my family lives, but his family was coming into town from 2 hours away, so it worked for everyone. 

    The complication is where do people stay?  Will your out of town guests stay near the venue or near the rest of the family?  Are you having a rehearsal and dinner at the venue that his family will have to drive to 2 days in a row?  Or will there be day after activities?  Maybe those questions can help you decide how far is too far to coordinate.  Good luck!

    Post # 4
    3539 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Umm I have travelled 4hrs to get to a wedding but thats because I wasnt living in same city. But put it this way…. people that will want to be there will be there, and people that care will go the distance. So I dont think 1hr and half is too far at all!

    Post # 5
    1940 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I don’t think distance is a big deal unless the ceremony and reception are 1.5 hours apart.  If they are all in one location pick what you want!  People will come!

    Post # 6
    5262 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Most of our family lives in various suburbs and will have to drive between 1-3 hours for our wedding. Some of them have complained, but those who care enough will be there. You can’t cater to everyone since in most families not all the guests live in the same town. 

    Post # 7
    3378 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I don’t think an hour and a half is too far – if people are concerned about the long drive after the reception, they could get a hotel room, and if they’re concerned about spending the money, it’s really close enough to drive home (they have either option).  I’ve never really thought about this because my family is so spread out.  In my experience, those who love you will want to be with you on your wedding day and won’t mind going a little distance.

    Post # 8
    2186 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    im not sure if the ceremony location and the reception are 1.5 hours away? if its all in one place, like the previous poster said, works for me, but i wouldnt drive to a wedding in one place, then drive 1.5 hours away to a reception….

    I would suggest getting room blocks in a near by hotel if you are serving alcohol! 🙂

    but yeah my wedding was a 3 hour drive for me my hubby and most of our friends, an hour drive for most of my family, and 6 hours for most of my hubby’s family.

    no one complained!


    Post # 10
    2186 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    @sarajade: ahh ok in that case – 1.5 hours away from guests are fine 🙂

    Post # 11
    1871 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Ask four different people, you’ll get four different answers. I think that it depens on the relationship of the guests to you–I’ve travelled thousands of miles for my best friends; I’ve skipped weddings that are less than 5 for people I don’t know so well. I don’t think a 90 minute drive is that big a deal for most people, but again–it will probably ultimately depend on how well you know them.

    Post # 12
    9029 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    If the reception site is very close to the church [less than 15 minutes drive] then guests shoudnt mind too much.. but if there reception venue is far from the ceremony venue then it will just be too much driving overall

    Post # 13
    4354 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I don’t think an hour and a half is unreasonable but I agree with the suggestion about the hotel rooms. The people who mean the most to you will find a way to make it there.

    Post # 15
    875 posts
    Busy bee

    I have gone to a lot of different weddings and in my region travelling to the reception location isn’t really that unusual.  Most of the time a wedding might be held at a local church and the reception is about a 20 minute drive but it might be 30 to 40 minutes as well.  But I think that asking a guest to drive to a long distance wedding and then drive a significant distance beyond that is a little much especially when you as the hosts will probably be arriving onsite of the reception even later than they will.  If the entire wedding event was in the same place then I don’t think that the distance is a problem as long as there is a place for people to stay overnight.

    Post # 16
    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    With the exception of your closest family and friends, most people consider 45+ mins to be too far away.

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