(Closed) How far is too far??

posted 7 years ago in Reception
  • poll: How far away was/is your ceremony and reception from your house/where most of your guests are from?
    less than an hour : (39 votes)
    48 %
    1-2 hours : (18 votes)
    22 %
    over 2 hours : (24 votes)
    30 %
  • Post # 3
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    14 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Whoops, double post.

    Post # 3
    Member
    14 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Now this is just me but, As a Bride:

    The wedding venue I’m looking at is about an hour and 10 min. from half my guests and myself and the other half are within 50 min away. The reception will be at a different location where half the guests live and on the way back home from the other half. I too am a little scared that most people will not attend the ceremony (should I choose that one) especially the ones that live further away. Though I am looking for something within the receptions’ city that I can basically live with as I Love the potential ceremony site. I’m almost at the point where I don’t care if people see me get married as long as the officiant, our families, and my FI are there. That’s how much I love this place. I do see my guests travelling to the reception site as it’s on avg 35 min. away from the furthest ones.

    As a Guest:

    The max I’ve driven to a wedding completely ok with the drive has been around 40 min. and I wasn’t particularly close to the couple. Now I probably wouldn’t be overjoyed with a potential hour drive to a wedding where I wasn’t at least very good aquaintances with the couple and would only attend the reception if it was significantly close or on my way home. Now then, family and friends 2 hours would be nothing, I’d go to the ends of the Earth if I could because they’re people I care about and would love to witness such a special moment in their lives.

    So yeah, there’s some food for thought 🙂

    Post # 4
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    271 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Wow.  We are horrible.  Our wedding is taking place 4-5 hours north of where most of our guests live.  Almost all of them are just making a mini vacation out of it and spending the weekend up at the resort we having it at.  I was worried at first, but FH assured me that none of his friends woudl mind (they are 75% of the guset list)  The wedding is still 2 1/2 months away and most of them have reserved cabins or rooms at the local casino/hotel already.  We haven’t even sent out inviations yet!

    Post # 5
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    7300 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I’ve driven 8 hours for a wedding. The people who want to be there will be there.

    Post # 6
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    726 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Some people have to get on planes to attend weddings. So a short little drive won’t be a big deal to those who can physically withstand the journey. 

    Post # 7
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    197 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Most of our family members are 3+ hours away so it’s a semi-destination wedding for those who attend but we’re getting married in the city we live in and it’s less than 20 minutes from FH’s (soon to be our) house.

    Post # 8
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    5096 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    At least half our guests had to fly to be there.  It was an hour away for the rest.  (We live right outside Boston, as do all our local friends; our wedding was at my mom’s house in Worcester.) Every single person I invited from Boston came, except for a few who were out of town that weekend,. I would never miss a wedding just because it was an hour away!  That’s crazy!  I’d feel lucky I didn’t have to fly, like I usually do!

    Post # 9
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    899 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I don’t think it really matters so long as you have a good reason for getting married in a particular place. We’ve travelled up to 3 hours for a wedding. The only time it’s annoying is when the location is not where the couple live or have grown up…

    Post # 10
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    3152 posts
    Sugar bee

    I would not want to travel more than 30 minutes between the two site, 1 hour tops. 

    Post # 11
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    1830 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @bridget.sutter:  Right there with you.    Our wedding was held 6 hours drive away from where 90% of our guests are from.  Granted we had guests coming in from England, Australia, and across the US so people were going to have to travel regardless, but the majority of my family is from Chicago and our wedding was 6 hours north of there.   Most of our guests just made a weekend of it and enjoyed their time in the small town in which our wedding was held.   

    As others have said, if people want to be there, they will be there.   People who I never in my wildest dreams would have thought would have attended, traveled the distance to be at our wedding.  And vice versa for some people who I was certain would have come.  

    Post # 12
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    3402 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    My Boyfriend or Best Friend & I are both college student (which equates to BROKE) & we are still getting plane tickets & reservations to attend a wedding & yacht reception in Miami (we are from Michigan). So pretty much I agree with Miss Tattoo: if they care enough to be there, they will be. & if they don’t, I wouldn’t worry to much about their absence..

    Post # 13
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    558 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015 - Thorpewood

    I’m not engaged yet, but I have a feeling I know what part of my state I want my wedding to be in.  So, I’m thinking it’ll be about three hours from where I live.  It doesn’t really affect my family because aside from my mom, dad, and brother, none of my family lives in Maryland.  So they’ll all be driving from pretty far regardless.  My boyfriend’s family do live in Maryland, but I’m sure they’d be totally fine with making the drive.  Neither of us has a ton of friends, so all of the important ones will be in our wedding party and will definitely be there.

    TBH, I’m not that concerned about people who choose not to celebrate my marriage because it’s “too far.”  I’ll be too busy having fun to notice their absence.  🙂

    Post # 14
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    2907 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    People flew across the country for ours. Well… some. Others could not make it because it was so far away. We had just about 40% of our invite list make it to the wedding.

    I’m hoping to fly across the country for a friend if the $$ works out.

     

     

    Post # 15
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    5110 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2011

    In the end the people who want to be a part of your day will make the drive or flight or whatever. I am traveling 2.5 hours next saturday for a wedding. I dont think its that big of a deal.

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