Post # 1
I’m new to this site. I’m currently living in Calgary with my FH. We will be moving back to Ontario next fall and plan on getting married sometime in 2011.
I’ve been looking at venues online and am considering a few places on niagara on the lake. I am concerned that this may be too far.
FH and I will be living and working in Mississauga. Most of my family is in mississauga/brampton area and FH’s family is all in Kitchener.
Is it unreasonable to make everyone drive over an hour to attend our wedding? Would it make it better if we got some hotel rooms for family to stay overnight?
What do you all think?
Post # 3
Our wedding is in a small town at least an hour’s drive for many of our guests, but in Texas that’s not that big of a deal. Unless it’s Wedding Party or family, most will not be staying overnight. However, I understand that different parts of North America view travel time differently. An hour for a Texan is perfectly reasonable…not sure about you crazy Canadians…J/k. 😉
You should reserve a block of hotel rooms, however. That’s a must.
Post # 4
Yay, another Canadian! I am living in Saskatoon with my FI!
You may have fewer guests because of the drive. It would be nice for you to get some hotel rooms, but could add up to be a lot of extra money. If you have it in your budget, it would be very nice.
My Fiance and I are the only ones of our family that live in Saskatoon. Everyone (besides a few friends that live here) will have to drive at least 3 hours, some more (coming from Calgary!). I’m giving them options for hotels in many price ranges and areas of the city, but will not be paying for them. No one has complained to me yet, so I think all is well!
What does your Fiance think about this? Does he think it is too far for people to drive?
Post # 5
I don’t think it’s a big deal. 70% of our guests will be traveling for our wedding, which is now looking like it will be 45 minutes outside of our hometown! That’s quite a ways for many, but there’s no central place for everyone to meet, plus our venue will be beautiful! I wouldn’t worry about them driving an hour.
In fact, my whole family showed up to my cousin’s wedding and it was 3.5 hours away… we stayed in hotels and no one really minded.
Post # 6
Niagara-on-the-Lake is beautiful! Friends of ours were married there this past summer and only those who lived locally didn’t stay in hotels…all the Torontonians stayed overnight. You might want to think about making a block booking of rooms and just letting guests book rooms themselves. You can usually get pretty reasonable deals when you block book.
Post # 7
I love Niagara on the Lake! I wanted to have a wedding there sooo bad, but almost all of our family lives in Ottawa so that is def too far!
I think booking a block of rooms is a good idea. You could also look into renting a bus or shuttle from Toronto area to Niagara… That way, if people wanted to head back to the city that night, they could.
Post # 8
Thanks for all the responses. Its so nice to have some support.
lulucarmen : The Fiance is very indifferent about the location. He’ll go with whatever I choose as long as its within reason/budget of course. 🙂 What I love about Alberta is the mountains and if I could afford it I’d get married in Banff and fly all my family here but that would be ridiculous! Instead, I’m having my engagement photos done in Banff.
Catherine: The shuttle bus is a great idea! That actually might work..definitely something that I will look into. Thank you.
Niagara on the lake is definitely a possibility. YAY! In case anyone was wondering I’m considering the Prince of Whales hotel in niagara. I wish I could go check it out. Hmmm..maybe I could get a friend to go.
I feel so much better. Thanks again!
Post # 9
I live in Vancouver, but I grew up in the GTA & I lived in Waterloo for my first year of university…
I actually think Niagara on the lake is a nice compromise between Mississauga & Kitchener/Waterloo!
I definitely don’t think its too far… but then again I lived in Kitchener & my Boyfriend or Best Friend lived in Woodbridge so I was used to driving a lot. It’s a breeze once you’re on the highways 🙂
Post # 10
NOL woul be wonderful! My Fiance and I had considered it, but we wanted to keep things close and have a more urban-meets-tradition feel to the wedding. We went to an out of town wedding this past summer, and the couple organized rates for the guests and also had a shuttle bus that picked up / dropped off guests between the hotel and the venue – which was nice, especially at 2 in the morning LOL
Post # 11
We’ll be asking our guests to drive a little over an hour, too. Many of them are scattered throughout the suburbs of Chicago, and we live in the city, so that’s where we’re having the wedding. We will be blocking off rooms, but not paying for them.
Post # 12
Our situation is kind of similar. We live in Oakville and our friends are all in the GTA with some in the K-W area. Both of our parents live in K-W (and north of Elmira). Family is scattered throughout these locations.
I would have LOVED to have a wedding in the Niagara area but because of my FI’s dad’s health, he didn’t want his parents to have to travel very far. So, we decided to get married in Waterloo (which is nice as I was born and raised there).
Consider the demographics of your wedding guests and the type of wedding you’d like to have. N-O-T-L is perfect for smaller, more intimate, outdoor weddings.
Post # 13
My best friend is getting married 3 hours away and honestly its kind of a hassle. (i would never tell her this though)
The reason why it might be troublesome is because if we have to drive 3 hours home at night, we wont be able “let loose” and drink and stuff cause we will have to drive back.
Now the other problem is lodging. I would rather stay somewhere near the venue but if she wont be footing the bill I wont be able to afford to stay overnight there and will have to drive back home. Im not sure how it usually works (the etiquette and such) if the couple is supposed to pay for lodging for the wedding party but I will be paying for a dress, bridal shower, bachelorette party and a gift and I am not made of money by any means lol
Post # 14
If my hometown were closer to Niagra-on-the-Lake I would have my wedding there! I’m originally from the Woodstock area, but we’re having the Canadian wedding in London. Most of our guests are coming from Montreal/Ottawa/Toronto…so what’s another 45 minutes on the 401?
Fiance and I went on a wine tasting tour when we were home in the summer. So many amazing wineries! If you are not happy with the Prince of Whales, there are a ton of other places to have a wedding.
Post # 15
Fi and I stopped in mississauga the day after we were engaged! (One quick stop on our whirlwind canadian vacation).
As a guest, (who knews the bride and groom fairly well) Id be fine traveling up to two hours. Id like for the bride and groom to block off hotel rooms at a discounted rate, but I wouldnt expect them to pay for it.