Post # 1
Hi everyone! As a guest to a wedding, how far is “too far” for you to travel from a hotel to a wedding? We found a venue we may consider in the future and we really love it but the closest hotel is 38 minutes away. We have some family out of town but others are local. How would you feel about that as a guest? We also would plan on a shuttle of some sort, to help people out. I’ve never been to a wedding with the hotel being that far away so I’m not sure!
Post # 2
- Wedding: June 2017 - A vineyard
We were about 2 hours away from our venue. Basically everyone carpooled into a few cars and we all went to the venue together. And all of us were out of towners except my husband, great aunt and uncle, and uncle and aunt. Everyone else including my dad and I came from out of state.
Edit: and if I were a guest 38 minutes is no big. I would travel out of state by planeor easily go 2 hours driving for a close friend or family np.i would stay in a hotel 1 or 2 nights and call it mini vacation
Post # 3
@dappledduchess, thank you so much for sharing! You must have fell in love with that venue! I understand the feeling, when you just find the right place you want to make it work!
We have family who would already be driving about 4 hours to get there (to the area in general) and then the hotel drive to the venue would be another 40 minutes. I guess I felt like more at the end of the night, would that be a lot?
Post # 4
I think if you’re providing shuttles that sounds fine. Not ideal obviously, but as a guest I would understand if your venue was amazing but super remote. Without shuttles a 38 minute cab ride would be super pricy though, so I would make sure you budget accordingly to have convenient shuttles for everyone
Post # 5
How many people are you inviting and how many are staying at the hotel? If you’re running shuttles for a 30-40 minute drive you need to make sure there are multiple. If on has to go back and forth that’s over an hour r/t. So if the first one was full some of your guests would have to wait over and hour for it to come back. Is the venue outdoors or anything? Because the shuttles will have to start early to get everyone there on time. If it’s really hot or cold outside that day that would also be a big inconvenience for your guests. Just make sure you run plenty of busses/vans back and forth and I think you will be okay. But you’ll need at least 3 so they can go every 15 minutes.
If you’re going that far out for the reception, too. I would encourage your guests to take the shuttles. If someone drove out there and drinks too much, the temptation will be to just drive home so they don’t have to go so far in the morning to pick up their car.
Post # 6
If I had to make the journey myself I wouldn’t be too pleased to be honest. It would be a tiring journey at the end of the night to drive, but would also price me out of having a drink, as I wouldn’t want to pay for a taxi that distance. I would arrange shuttles if I were you.
Post # 7
It depends. Is it 38 min away for local guests? Or does it pretty much mean everybody has to stay at the hotel and the hotel is 38 min away?
I’d be annoyed. If I lived 38 min away that’d be no big deal. But if I lived 2 hours away or more and the closest hotel was 40 min… then it annoy me that I’d be paying and still that far.
Post # 8
Only if you were having a dry wedding without dancing or you have shuttles.
38 minutes away from where I’m spending the night means I either have to
A) not drink (and if I’m not drinking, I’m probably not dancing – I’m not a good enough dancer to not be self-conscious and do it without a drink or two in me – and if I’m not dancing, I’m going to politely mingle for a half hour after dinner and leave) or
B) have a designated driver (and that means they likely aren’t wanting to stick around too long after dinner, either, because being the sober person watching a bunch of people drinking isn’t a whole lot of fun).
I’m not saying I have to have alcohol to have fun, but the reality is I’m not sticking around as long as I would without it. Having hotels within walking or free shuttle distance (or easy/cheap cab distance) means I get to stay late and drink. Depending on the wedding, I’ll even get a hotel room for local weddings. Having hotels farther than that means I leave earlier because who wants to drive 40 minutes tired after a long party (sober).
ETA: And actually riding for 40 minutes in a shuttle while drunk and tired at the end of the night kind of sounds like torture. I just want to get out of my dress clothes and into bed asap. But then again, I get motion sick easily when I’m the passenger, which is another reason I prefer getting hotels even for local weddings.
Post # 9
40 min doesn’t seem like a big deal to me at all, especially if you’re providing shuttles. But I grew up in a city with insane traffic where it can take 40 min to go 10 miles…so I guess my perspective is different than pp?
Post # 10
@sapphire 27, I agree, I really feel as though the shuttle is a must. I imagine being a guest and I would think that 40 minutes was far, but if I knew that there was a shuttle and I didn’t have to worry about it, I probably would get over it much quicker.
@sunshine024, we are looking at spring time so it could be colder in the evening but it would be indoors. Our guest list is currently at 90. I’d say that 40 people or so would 100% be staying at a hotel. The venue is already 40 minutes away for our local guests (opposite direction from hotel) and I’d imagine they will go home. It is so sad because we really like the place but this hotel situation might kill it for us. It just doesn’t seem practical, even if we did a shuttle–it is still inconvieient.
@princessmiaofgenovia–I agree, as soon as I saw the closest hotel I was annoyed myself and then imagined being a guest I wouldn’t be happy. I imagined if we went to a wedding we wouldn’t even want to take the 40 minute shuttle. We would probably end up driving. I think it may make the venue a no 🙁
@bibliophilacticbee, I agree, it is really awful. Even for our local guests, the hotel is in the opposite direction of home! So I don’t even think they would want to stay/may not have as much fun. I’m surprised this venue makes any business with this crazy factor!
@annabananabee. I couldn’t agree more. Especially the end of the night–I think thats what I’m the most worried about.
Laides thank you for your honesty. I think we really have to think this over but I think the venue may not be worth it:(