Post # 1
My fiancé and i are currently looking at a venue that is about a hour away from where we live. So far every single person that we have brought this up to has complained about the drive and it being so far away. How far is too far to drive for a wedding?
Post # 2
CFAllyce: There is no one answer. It depends on what your guests are used to. If you live in a large city, it can take an hour just to get across town, so for me it would not be a big deall.
If they are used to a 5-10 minute drive to work etc they will think it’s too far.
Post # 3
CFAllyce: I think this is going to be a regional thing, people from different places have different ideas about ‘too far’. We’re getting married about 45 minutes from where we live, 1-3 hours from our local (Ontario) guests and a transatlantic flight away from my FIs family. So an hour seems reasonable to me. But, then I commute an hour each way everyday (so does my Fiance and most of my coworkers.)
Post # 4
I wouldn’t complain as long as everything (ceremony + reception) was in the same spot. I’ve certainly traveled farther than that for a wedding.
If the ceremony location is an hour away, then the reception location is 30+ minutes away from THAT, that would be a bit irritating.
Post # 5
People who want to be there will be there, no matter the drive.
Personally, an hour’s drive is nothing but a slight inconvenience for me.
Post # 6
CFAllyce: Everyone is different. However, for me, anything over 30 minutes is too far.
Post # 7
I think an hour is very reasonable.
Post # 8
CFAllyce: An hour drive really would not be a big thing to me. However, I have family all over SC and in GA and have driven to weddings for them. Sooooo…..
I do remember a few years back….
Wait, a little back story is needed. My mom is from GA, grew up there, most of her family aunts, uncles, etc lived in the same small town. They grew up moved away, etc. but most of the wedding have still been held around the same little town.
Okay, back to the original point. A couple of years back, several of my 2nd/3rd cousins on both sides were all getting married within about 6 months time. All about 1 or 2 hours drive from this little town and I remember one of my uncles saying “Why can’t people get married in Conyers anymore?” They still attended though. Point being, I think sometimes people just say things, however mean spirited it might be, but don’t necessairly stay away.
Post # 9
CFAllyce: I think it really depends. For those who are planning on just driving to the wedding and going back home afterwards, I can see where an hour would be a little long for them. They will probably be coming home after a long day, they’ll be tired, some may have been drinking (they shouldn’t be driving, but you know what I mean), so an hour can seem like an eternity. Those who plan on staying at a hotel block near the wedding won’t mind driving an hour up for the wedding, spending the night at the hotel, and then driving home the next day.
If a wedding is more than an hour away I usually book a hotel for the night to eliminate any worries. The longest I’ve driven for a wedding was six hours, spent the night, and left early the next morning. I live in FL so almost EVERYTHING is over an hour away haha, so an hour is whatever to me.
Post # 10
An hour drive for a wedding is definately not too far! Wow, the people who said that to you have some serious issues….
Post # 11
Doesn’t seem too far to me at all! Our venue is 1.5 hours away from us and most of our family & friends. We are providing reasonably priced hotel suggestions and it’s at an inn. Many have booked rooms at the inn already. But even so, if I were invited to a venue an hour or even two hours away, I would have no issue driving there and back and wouldn’t necessarily spend the night. I drive 10 minutes to work, by the way, and still don’t find an hour unreasonable.
Post # 12
If there’s reasonably priced hotels in the area, I’d be okay with it and I’d stay over. I don’t drink and drive. If there weren’t any hotel options, I’d be annoyed and I’d probably complain because then I would have to drive and wouldn’t be able to drink. I dont need to get smashed at a wedding but do really like to have a few tipsy cocktails. Maybe your guests are the same way and they might not complain as much if you considered hiring a little bus to transport them.
Post # 13
It’s all relative. I used to live in a small town where we had to drive 3 hours to get to a mall or commercial airport. One hour wouldn’t bother me. You just plan around it.
However, I do think there’s a “too far” for distance between ceremony and reception. That situation has a limited amount of time that people would rather spend at the event than in their cars. I would only have max a 30-45 min from ceremony to reception.
Post # 14
That’s silly. Our wedding was in our college town (where we met and fell in love) and the only person who currently lived here was my husband, now I do too. My immediate family was coming in from 1.5 hours SE and his family was coming in from 1.5 hours to 45 minutes NW. Our reception venue was a 27 minute drive W of the ceremony and pretty much everyone came to that without any complaints. Everyone else was even further out of town and many were traveling from out of state. We even invited guests from out of country.
Post # 15
I’m shocked that people are saying that an hour is too far. Even if you didn’t want to get a room somewhere, you could still have a drink at the beginning of the night and be fine to drive home four hours later. Or, if a few people are from the same town, they can carpool, as there are always people who don’t drink. I live in a city with a 10 minute commute, and have been to a few weddings an hour away (and come home afterwards).
CFAllyce: For what it’s worth, we are inviting guests from 8 US states, 6 Canadian provinces, Bolivia, Germany, and Thailand. None of them has expressed anything but excitement at attending our wedding (Ok, so the guests in Thailand and Bolivia aren’t coming). The closest guests live an hour away across the border, and many of them will be driving home that night. We won’t be surprised if they choose to leave a little earlier, but are very grateful that they’re coming.