Post # 1
Hi all Sorry if this question has already been covered, but I was wondering what everyone thinks is a fair distance (travel time) to expect guests to drive/commute to get to your wedding? This is presuming I am not making hotel arrangements for guests (reserving a block of rooms).
I fell in love with a place that is going to be about 1.5 hour drive for about 60% of my guests (under an hour for the remainder).
Is it obnoxious to assume people will be willing to drive that far just for me? I don’t want to come off that way at all and will look elsewhere if so. I just don’t know what the etiquette is on something like this.
Thanks for any input!
Post # 3
I would and have driven that far for many weddings. But I think it’s necessary that you get a block of rooms. Not everyone will stay but that can be a long drive after a night of drinking and dancing.
Post # 5
My guests are travelling 40 – 60 minutes to Auckland city,NZ where they will be catching a 30 min ferry over to an Island then transported to our vineyard…I deserve it! LOL…
Post # 6
@atroianos: absolutely not! my wedding is a little under a 2 hr drive for everyone, and so far mostly everyone accepted!
Post # 7
As long as the wedding and reception are close to each other I would drive 3 hours for someone I loved and wanted to see get married.
Post # 8
Thanks everyone! I am actually planning on having the ceremony and reception at the same place (beachfront). There are a bunch of hotels in the area, so I will make those arrangements as well. I feel better after hearing your responses… much appreciated!
Post # 9
As long as the reception isn’t an hour and a half away from the ceremony, you’re good. I’ve driven farther than that for a wedding.
Post # 10
@atroianos: we had our reception in Sydney which was a 2.5hr drive from our hometown. 100% of our guests stayed in hotels that we did not pay for. Our reception didn’t end until midnight though, dinner started at 6pm and then there was lots of dancing.
Post # 11
Where my parents live you have to drive a ways to get to anywhere. Our reception will be about 50 minutes from our ceremony and it was the same for both of my brothers’ weddings.
Post # 12
My ceremony/reception location is about 1.5 hours away from almost all guests. I hope people come…..but TBH I am terrified about large numbers of no-shows. We are thinking of paying for some if not all out-of-towners’ hotel rooms, but I’m really not sure how to do this without it looking like a bribe to come to our wedding. I would really love it if people came, though.
Post # 13
@atroianos: It’s not obnoxious and some people will gladly do it, while others will not (or complain as they do). If it’s your dream venue/location, I don’t see why you shouldn’t do it!
Post # 14
I would say up to an hour. The only time I didn’t mind was when FH and I drove down to NC from NJ for my friend’s wedding that I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man for 🙂