(Closed) How far should save the date's be sent for a wedding on a 3 day weekend??

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
3718 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@ylapis:  I would say 11 months out. My thought is if you send out memorial day Save-The-Date Cards now, people will think they are for this year. I would also only send them to the people you know you will invite. If there is a chance you might not be close a year from now (co-workers or semi-close friends), wait until the invites go out.

Post # 4
2073 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

WeWe’d were married just before July 4th and my husband’s family was flying out to California from Boston. We sent save the dates out in September 2011 for our July 2012 wedding. Everyone was able to find flights for a reasonable amount with that much notice. 

Hopethat helps!  Congratulations and happy planning. 

Post # 5
2808 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

we’re sending ours almost a year in advance. just to be sure. everyone will have to travel, no matter where we have the wedding. so we’re aiming for 10-12 months ahead.

Post # 7
9952 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Etiquette Snob here… lol

A Holiday Weekend needs more advance notice than a regular Weekend for sure.

Now a WORD OF WARNING about Save-The-Date Cards

Don’t make the same mistake that so many Brides do…

It sucks to send out Save-The-Date Cards to a bunch of folks that you later realize you cannot afford to invite to your Wedding (due to space or budget limitations)

So if you are going to go the STD route, make sure you’ve done the important stuff first…

1- Chosen a Date

2- Determined a Budget

3- Made a Draft Guest List (so as to determine numbers)

4- Secured a Venue for said Date (big enough to accommodate your numbers)

5- And have figured out that you can afford that Venue with the numbers you have in mind

Hope this helps,


Post # 9
9952 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

TO @jg780806: the Post Institute’s rule of thumb is 6 months or more

Personally, I believe it should be longer if it is a Destination Wedding (other country) OR a Holiday Weekend event where either “saving up” or flights is going to be an issue.

I’d say at least a 9 month lead in those situations.

To me a year is too much lead-time.

And if you are wanting to go even father ahead than the 9 months… then perhaps an Engagement Announcement (vs a STD) is more suitable.

Hope this helps,


Post # 11
9952 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

TO @ylapis:  sounds great… good to see a well organized Bride at the front of the planning curve.

OF NOTE… Even if you get Regrets back from your Save-The-Date Cards remember that it is correct Etiquette to still send folks an actual Invite…

This shows:

(a) You’ve thought of them in your actual planning (they might appreciate the souvenir)


(b) They may have had a change of heart, made other arrangements to juggle their schedule, or won the lottery and now have the funds to travel.

It is the courteous thing to do

As Save-The-Date Cards are NOT Invites… they are just an Announcement – Notification – Heads Up

Hope this helps,

PS… I also have great tips on how to “appropriately” manage your A, B, and C Lists when the time comes… so reach out.  You’ll need to know that info as you work on your Wedding Invites & Response Cards.


Post # 12
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think it would be fine to send them now, that way if people get together over memorial day weekend this month, they can make appropriate plans for next year.

Post # 13
360 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

As soon as you are positive that’s the date you want and you can get the Save-The-Date Cards made, send them. However, I wouldn’t send them more than one year in advance, only because it might make you look like a really over zealous bride. Guests will appreciate advanced notice, especially when it includes traveling over a holiday weekend. Places book up fast and can be more expensive unless get a jump on it…plus holidays can be challenging to get off from work. More time the better. 

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