Post # 1
So I live in Denver as do most of my family and friends. My fiance’s family mostly lives in Minesota with the exception of his mom, step dad and siblings. The place I am looking at for a venue is in Ouray which is 5.5 hours south west of Denver (and not really near an airport).
Well my to be mother-in-law said we can’t get married there because its too far away and would inconvience too many people. I know it’s my day but I also want our friends and family to be able to get there not inconvienced in any way.
My question is what is too far to make people travel.
Post # 3
Personally I think that is a bit far from an airport if you have a good chunk of guests who will be having to fly in. I think about an hour from a decent airport is helpful if you are trying to look out for your guests (Obviously you CAN have it anywhere you want. I’m just responding in terms of thinking of your guests’ ability to easily get there, even if OOT).
This is part of the reason DH and I chose to have our wedding in Indianapolis instead of Fort Wayne (they are about 1.5 – 2 hours apart). Fort Wayne has an airport but it is small and expensive to fly into. So most guests would have had to fly into Indianapolis and drive up to Fort Wayne. We thought that this was too inconvienient to ask guests to do.
Post # 4
Hey there fellow Denver bee!!! Personally, I say have the wedding in Ouray. It’s gorgeous there!!!!! I’m sure once your guests get there they will be thanking you for having your wedding in such a beautiful place! Isn’t there an airport in Telluride or somewhere close by? I could have swore there was.
Post # 5
that’s what I was just looking at. There is one in Telluride and in Montrose so my hopes are being lifted a little.
Post # 6
I say its your wedding so whatever you want. If people can’t make it than that’s their choice and you should respect that some people won’t be able to because of finances.
I live in a completely different state than my family. The closest members living 8 hours away and the farthest living 16+ hours. When my cousin got married I drove 8 hours to be there and when I get married I know my family will drive to be there for me. If they are unable to I will understand (yes I will be disappointed) but it happens especially in todays economy.
To be a little more considerate of my family that will be driving (because to fly is a little outrageous), we are planning a holiday weekend wedding. I have been there where I drive all day Friday, spend Saturday with family and then drive back all day Sunday and its not fun.
Having my wedding on Labor Day Saturday, having Sunday to recover and visit and then let my family drive back Monday rested (or if they want to stay Monday and drive back Tuesday even better) is a much better deal for all of us.
Post # 7
We didn’t even think about the convenience/inconvenience factor for our guests: we thought about what would make it easiest for us during the long, 9 month process. So, we picked a sport that is about 2 hours away from an airport and about a 9 hour drive from our closest friends and family…as a result, our numbers of attending are WAY low: we invited 173 and 65 are coming…about 2/3 of which are actual family. If I could do it over, I might do it somewhere that was a little easier to get to with family or friends’ homes available for our guests to stay with if they were strapped for cash. As it is, it is costing our guests several hundred dollars to attend our wedding. Do I feel bad? yes. Have we helped get free hotel rooms for people with our frequent flyer miles? yes. Have we gotten to the end of our financial rope and there are people who are still paying an arm and a leg. yes. But they chose to come, and I’m glad they are!
Post # 8
Ultimately it’s your decision because it’s your wedding.
However if you want/expect a good number of guests to attend your venue should be within at least 1.5 hours (at the very most) from an airport. You have to be OK with some important people might not make it. We made this decision with our Destination Wedding and each had a sibling who did not make it. While it was upsetting they couldn’t be there if planning all over again we would have gone the same route.
It just matters what’s most important to you: venue or guests. Good luck.