(Closed) How far would you travel for a wedding? POLL

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: How far would you travel for a wedding?

    0 - 30 minutes

    30 minutes - 1 hour

    1 hour - 1.5 hours

    1.5 hours - 2 hours

    2 hours +

  • Post # 2
    39 posts
    • Wedding: October 2019

    I guess for me, it would just depend on how close I am to the person. Just being honest. If it’s somebody extremely close to me (assuming we knew plenty of time in advance to make arrangements), I wouldn’t mind traveling as far as necessary. However, if it’s more like a coworker or someone just not that close, I would probably travel an hour and a half at MOST before having second thoughts about attending.

    Post # 3
    957 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2019

    I agree with PP. If this was someone in my family or one of my best friends, I’d travel wherever I needed to go to go to the wedding. If it was a close friend, I’d probably travel 2 hours. Acquaintances/coworkers/etc., I would only go if it was around an hour.

    Post # 4
    24 posts

    I chose 2+ hours.  I grew up in a rural area, so I know that’s made me used to long drives for anything and everything.

    I would travel 8 hours if one of my friends from grad school invited me to their wedding.  2 already have, one I traveled about 4 hours for her wedding.  The other was the same weekend I was moving into my new townhouse, so I had to decline.  I would have been traveling about 8 hours for the second wedding.

    Post # 5
    9437 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    It depends on a lot of factors. One of the biggest being how close I am to the person. I traveled 3 hours for my best friend’s wedding. I will be traveling 8 hours for my SIL’s wedding. I’ve traveled 2 hours for a friend from grad schools wedding. I probably wouldn’t get on a plane for someone I’m not close to.

    Two hours doesn’t seem that far to me though, so I would probably make that trip for most people’s weddings. 

    Post # 6
    2322 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

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    morethanyesterday :  The further away weddings that I’ve attended: Seattle to Boston, Seattle to Antigua, and Seattle to the French Alps for weddings. I love to travel!

    Post # 7
    957 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: City, State

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    morethanyesterday :  there really is not an answer. besides closeness, it depends on money too.

    What day of the week and time is the wedding? Around 2 hours is the cut off time for me to stay overnight, 1 or 2 nights of hotel. Is it a child free wedding, that adds child care cost and time before and after…. Which means we will stay overnight more than likely.

    How many weddings do I have that year? I don’t have an unlimited budget.


    Post # 8
    3187 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

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    morethanyesterday :  well we recently flew to Norway for the weekend from the US for a wedding…

    Post # 10
    1112 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2019

    Our venue is 2 hours away from everyone, including us!

    Also a few years ago, my friend from college (having just graduated at that time) got married after dating someone for 8 months. They had a 4th of July weekend wedding. It was a 10 HOUR DRIVE EACH WAY. Idk what we were thinking. What really swayed our decision to go was there was an amusement park we both really wanted to go to near their wedding… so we did their wedding on Saturday & amusement park on Sunday.

    Post # 11
    590 posts
    Busy bee

    My friends are split between Boston and NYC. We’re always traveling back and forth for each other’s weddings/birthdays/vacations (which can be 4-6 hours depending on traffic). We’re used to it and would never miss someone’s wedding because we had to travel 2+ hours.

    But like PPs said, everyone’s situation is different. You would know better than us if there are some friends who are more willing/able to travel than others.

    Post # 12
    952 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2019

    For family and close friends, I’d travel anywhere (provided it is feasible given money/time off). For friends I’m not super close with, or distant family members, it would depend. If it’s across the country but it’s in a city I like and I could make a mini vacation out of it, sure I’d go. If it’s 2 hours away and on a Sunday night, I probably wouldn’t go. If it’s 3 hours away, I might go and get a hotel room overnight as long as I don’t feel like money is tight at the moment. So there are really a lot of factors if it isn’t super close family and friends – do I like the city, do I need to take time off work, what day of the week is it, how many of my other friends are going, how much money have I been spending lately, etc.

    If it’s in like the middle of nowhere with nothing to do to make staying the night worth it, I’m not that close to the person, and I don’t know many people going, I’d travel probably between 1-1.5 hours max, as long as it’s on a Saturday or a Sunday morning.

    ETA: Honestly, I would just pick wherever works best for the two of you. Do you live closer to one of your groups of friends? I would probably pick close to where you live in that case. It is just going to make the logistics of the wedding easier for you, and your friends will understand that you are having the wedding where you live.

    Post # 13
    326 posts
    Helper bee

    Ah I said 30-1hr but should have said 2+! I live in a major city where 30-1hr is normal to get a lot of places, but for 2+ hours I’d get a hotel but still come! 

    Post # 14
    1364 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2020

    If I’m driving, 5-6 hours would probably be my maximum. Flying I’m much less likely to go, simply due to cost.

    For our wedding, we chose to have it close (within an hour) of our families so the majority of our guests, especially the elderly ones, won’t have to travel far. 

    All of our college friends will have a 4 hours drive though, which they are totally fine with. 

    Post # 15
    6000 posts
    Bee Keeper

    We traveled out to Utah from the east coast  for my stepbrother’s (stepmother’s son) wedding. I didn’t know him very well, but we did it to please my stepmother who I genuinely care for.

    The wedding and “reception” were unbelievable. The bride didn’t say a thing, not even hello. Her parents kept saying they hoped everyone would leave their house soon. There were 15 – 20 people max, probably less. The only thing they served was cake…for 3 hours. My husband and I left to drive toward the airport (2 hrs away) since we were leaving the next day. We stopped for food because we were so hungry after a church wedding and 3 hours of nothing to eat but cake. We found out later that after everyone but my parents cleared out they served spaghetti and meatballs. We were pretty disgusted to come all that way and be treated like a pestilence you want to get rid of. Many years later, it’s funny. It’s the farthest we ever traveled for a wedding and it was by far the worst.

    I didn’t like her, she had zero personality. They divorced of course. My stepbrother hasn’t spoken to my parents in years. My sister said he sexually abused her at one point (she was 13 or 14). Weird doesn’t even begin to describe it. 

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